we have been in a relationship for 5 yrs. our families know of it. we were about to do official talks about it to each others families. but things are not right between us at the moment.
we are having constant fights, he is showing a lot of aggression these days which is very strange because he used to be a calm man. i have been anxiously attached to him.
as much as i want to marry him, and he wants to do the talks to the families too, the thought of being like this all our lives scares us.
what shall we do?
Last updated on:2026-05-06T03:01:18+05:30
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honestly, i had to pause everything. no wedding talks, no pressure, just focus on whether we even felt safe and calm together day to day. if that part isn’t steady, marriage just amplifies it.
that sounds good. pls help me navigate through it. what all did you stop and what all did you change within urself?
hey do you feel safe and heard when he’s angry, or are you mostly trying to keep the peace so things don’t blow up
I don't feel heard when he's angry. and from past few days, I don't even feel safe like i dk what next brutal thing he's going to say
i was in something similar, we were talking marriage while fighting all the time, and i kept thinking love would fix it. it didn’t, i just got more anxious and he got more distant 😔
yes its happening the same way, the more im getting anxious, the more he's getting distant and avoidant.
i really want to fix this idk how too