I messaged him last night
Long story short, my avoidant ghosted me after a year of talking daily. We are long distance and never really had issues, apart from him starting the push-pull thing 6 months in. I have been wracking my brain about this since September and trying not to blame myself for him abandoning me. I think about him all the time and I don't know if he even still cares at all, but he hasn't removed me off anywhere and even still has all my Spotify playlists saved...
I was planning on waiting to see if he would message me on my birthday in 2 weeks, but then decided to text him last night instead. My reasoning was that if he doesn't reply now, my birthday will feel less heavy cause I won't be expecting a message then either...
So far he hasn't opened the message, but he has been active so that hurts. I know it doesn't mean he won't ever open it and that maybe I need to be a bit patient, but it's another sting. Cause maybe he does just simply feel completely indifferent towards me and this won't even spark anything in him...
I don't regret sending the message at the moment, I knew this would likely happen. I'm just hoping that if he leaves me unopened/never replies, I will finally be able to start letting go... it's so hard when I never got any accountability from him or any type of closure, he just... stopped replying 😔
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my last situationship did the same thing, the slow fade into nothing. i kept staring at the “active now” and wondering how someone who talked to me every day could suddenly act like i didn’t exist. the no-closure part really messes with your head. i’m so sorry you’re in that space right now
my fearful avoidant and I said goodbye today. this time for good. Because I can’t do it anymore. And it hurts physically Our goodbye was very emotional. Even he was crying. And I have been crying non stop. I’ve blocked him from messaging me and deledet him from my social media. It actually feels like I’m never gonna see him again and it hurts so bad
omg this is just horrible how he treated you. after one year! Im sorry you're going through this, i hope you will be fine again soon. My dismissive-avoidant left me almost three months ago and I know exactly how you feel. despite blocking him i also think about him and would like to have a conversation and im sometimes tempted to get in touch again, but I think the conversations we want will never happen. they wont take accountability. This stings like hell. I know how you feel. I also know and was told many times to be patient and kind to myself, and that this is still so fresh - give it time. he doesnt sound like someone who wants a relationship or love someone. or take accountability. sorry :( im giving myself 6months to feel better and im prescribing you the same. it will get better! ❤️
fuck him sorry happen to u it's worse feeling ever u too sweet nice for treat like shit. he don't care evil . yes them active sns bit not reply mesej my ex like that too she gone 2 day I'm confront her she say no lie. he seem don't wan reply u text not interested don't text her anymore let he text u if he miss care he back . hi my ex also avoidant dismissed ex long distance we break up June but we together on off April to may .last may she gone 2 day that day I was mad I'm tell break up we fight then I'm regret begging she say let's just be friends I say no she say focus herself . June July she stalker my TikTok ig story. July I'm stalker her TikTok use secret account I see she bad person cuz say she avoidant wan flirt no text everyday and more hurt my feelings. august her birthday I'm text her birthday ask what she do she short dry late longer reply I'm mad . week august I'm confront her she used me no bare minimum not over ex we fight she send video ghost me i ghost her I'm block her .last October I'm apologize she say lol sorry? I don't reply that last I text I do no contact now I can't her hot cold