after the time
To the people who were broken up with a long time ago, listen, what's next for me? It's been three months since she broke up with me and I feel like I'm stuck on the same day.
To the people who were broken up with a long time ago, listen, what's next for me? It's been three months since she broke up with me and I feel like I'm stuck on the same day.
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what’s the part of the breakup that still feels frozen for you, the loss of her, or the loss of who you were with her
some days still felt like day one and that didn’t mean i was doing it wrong
i remember hitting the three month mark and feeling EXACTLY this. like time moved for everyone else but me. i woke up every day feeling dumped all over again. you’re not behind, you’re grieving
Three months in and feeling stuck is normal, but here’s the truth being “stuck” doesn’t mean time hasn’t passed, it means you haven’t shifted your focus yet. Your brain is replaying the breakup, the memories, the “what ifs,” and until you intentionally start moving forward, it’s going to feel like the same day keeps repeating. What’s next? Stop waiting for her or for closure from her. Stop reliving the past. Start doing things that pull your life forward, not backward …new routines, new goals, challenges that make you uncomfortable, new people who don’t have the power to break you again. Every small step builds momentum, and eventually those three months of pain start turning into the foundation of a new life one where you don’t wake up thinking about her first. The hard truth is she’s not coming back to “fix” this. You have to fix your own timeline. That’s the only way you stop living the same day over and over.
I've tried doing something new many times, but I don't know if I'm ready yet because most of the things usually end in failure and it's not about a different relationship, but about changing the routine and distracting my thoughts.