I said some really hurtful things to her over a misinterpretation of a message she sent which I had assumed was a break up message. i crashed out. Because of that and my reaction she now wants to leave me and broke up with. Im praying that she was just angry and needs time to cool off. Im planning to give her that space and work on myself. Ill go no contact for a month and then check in. I believe in fighting for a relationship if the love is still there. I Just hope she finds it in her to give me a second chance.
Last updated on:2026-03-10T15:17:45+05:30
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Im owning up to the things I said but what hurts the most is how I have to ignore my feelings and act as if we both weren't in the wrong.
man that sounds like a rough spiral. when you look back at that moment, was it more fear of losing her that made you react like that
Anger and betrayal. She started becoming distant. It really affected me and i thought that im overreacting and letting my overthinking get the best of me. The minute she sends a message like that of course i would get in the worse way possible. But my feelings are getting invalidated. I wasnt being acknowledged, I have feelings too
i’ve been on the other side of that moment where you read one message the wrong way and everything spirals. i said some things i wish i could take back too. the guilt after hits HARD.
I am the exact same way so trust me when I say I completely understand those kind of thoughts. when we sit in the quiet and the waiting, our brains do this cruel thing where it comes up with all sorts of hurtful scenarios because of what is unknown for the future. I am struggling with this myself. the anticipation of wanting the answers you desire or deserve, but in some situations one may never get, is excruciating. I am very sorry youre hurting so, and I honestly applaud you for being stronger than you think in this whole process. youve taken responsibility and youre giving space and as much as it hurts, and believe me i know it hurts, from an outside perspective, youre doing the right thing today; forget about tomorrow or next week, just today. none of us on this app are in the best places in our lives. we may not know each other, but we all need kindness and understanding to get thru these phases of our lives. I am always here to lend an ear or a shoulder to cry on friend 🧡
Thank you so much. I appreciate it:)
@Samy absolutely 🧡
Where even she is rn she is not cooling off, she will probably think of the past things you've done or what ever you did to her thats bad. Fix it Asap
trust me ive tried. I begged for hours. Yesterday night and today morning. I did fight for it. The begging wont help so I pray the time will
acknowledging that you said hurtful things is actually really huge, both for you and for her. and fighting for the love that you two shared is even bigger. I wish my ex did that for us and the future we planned. instead he abandoned me, betrayed me, and lied to my face. youre stronger than you think and just keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know youre not alone in your feelings friend 🧡
Thank you so much for understanding. Im really sorry about your ex, no one deserves that. You know I dont even know what to do with myself right now. I love her so much and I want to text her but I know id only be doing it for me and not giving her the space I promised. Im just scared that the no contact will just teach her to live without me. I cant imagine her getting with another person it makes me sick omg. After everything we planned. I really hope she can forgive me. To make things worse we're in a long distance relationship. She went to college, im upgrading my marks. I understand when she says she needs to navigate her life but it hurts so much as an overthinker because the first thing i jump into thinking is that theres someone else in the picture. I hope our love was genuine on both sides becaus i know we can make it work. She said "if it wasnt long distance we wouldve tried" that just letting me speechless and felt useless