Feeling helpless after a breakup: the what ifs

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We still both have feelings for each other but her mental health and our circumstances made it impossible for us right now to be together. Sometimes I think it's better she just cheated on me so I won't be thinking of the what ifs and it'll be easier for me to let her go. It's so hard realizing love isn't enough for us to stay.

Last updated on:2026-03-12T20:57:03+05:30

Comments (6)

ECOfade
ECOfade 1 hr ago

this one really sticks with me. do you two still talk right now, or did you both step back after ending it?

ivyyycoreee
ivyyycoreee 3 hrs ago

i can understand, i am going through the same thing, we both loved each other but he kept pushing me away because of his problems because handling me and handling his current life all of it was difficult together so he left me
i wish he cheated instead so I'd have a reason to move on

bookworm
bookworm 9 hrs ago

i get why your brain almost wishes there was betrayal, i had that same thought once.

UsedAd
UsedAd 11 hrs ago

i had a breakup like that too where nobody cheated, nobody stopped loving, life just got messy and it fell apart anyway. those “what if we met at a better time” thoughts used to keep me up at night.

JoyfulAndFree213

going through something similar

EpicJourney
EpicJourney 19 hrs ago

You have no idea how traumatizing it is when someone cheats on you, so please don't say that.
if it's meant to be, you guys will find each other again.
At least you sound like someone willing to fight for what you had.