I’m new to this community and appreciate everything I’ve read so far.
Im curious to hear what you all consider to be breaking ‘no contact’? obviously texting/calling/directly talking in any sort makes sense as violations. but what are other things you consider violations? for me, I’m wondering if I should consider the following as breaking no-contact:
- following/checking their Apple Music profile
- taking a certain path home/to work/wherever in the off-chance we cross paths (manufactured encounters)
- going to a store/restaurant/event/work out class that I feel like they might also be at, based on past experiences
- actually engaging if these encounters do happen, manufactured or not
I’m asking because I want to stay accountable to what this app is meant for, as well as to myself. happy to hear your feedback/perspective/advice, thanks!
Last updated on:2026-03-12T20:04:19+05:30
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if you did run into them at a store or class, do you feel like you’d actually be okay seeing them right now, or would it mess you up for the rest of the day?
I could see it going either way, depending on how the interaction goes. like, if we walk right by each other and not even engage, I could see it messing with me, engaging ruminating thoughts about how she doesn’t even care how I am feeling or how I should have initiated a conversation. there’s then the possibility if we do interact, it brings back feelings and reopens that wound.
get why you’re asking this. when i first tried no contact i caught myself checking his spotify and even walking past places he used to be, like maybe we’d “accidentally” run into each other. i told myself it wasn’t breaking it, but honestly my heart knew i was still reaching for him.