I reached out and said, "Hey, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking, and you’ve been on my mind. I’d really like to catch up—would you be open to a phone call?"
She replied, "Hey ____, I think it’s still too soon to catch up. I’m not in the right headspace to talk about us right now."
This is after she mentioned that she’d be open to reconnecting in the future. If it’s really “too soon,” then why not just be honest and tell me she never wants to be with me again or hear from me? I miss her so much, it’s tearing me apart inside.
Last updated on:2024-10-17T16:14:46+05:30
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It's a tough situation. Sometimes, people say things they don't mean.
It's understandable to feel hurt and confused. Maybe there's something you're missing.
Have you tried asking her directly why she's not ready to talk?
It's confusing that she's open to reconnecting but not now. Is there a reason for that?
It sounds like she's playing games. Is there anything else you know about the situation?
It's heartbreaking to miss someone so much. Sending you love and support.
I can't imagine how painful this must be. You're not alone in feeling this way.
Maybe try expressing your feelings through writing or art. It can be therapeutic.
Have you tried focusing on yourself? Sometimes, healing involves personal growth.
It's a tough pill to swallow. But remember, her feelings are valid. Try to respect her decision.
It's painful to be left hanging. Maybe she's afraid of hurting you further. Give her the time she needs.
It's a difficult situation. Maybe she's trying to be kind by saying she's open to reconnecting in the future. Let her take the lead.
It's understandable that she needs space right now. Everyone heals at their own pace. Perhaps she'll be ready to talk soon.
It sounds like she's still processing things. Maybe give her some time and reach out again later.
Ok..please listen...open to being reconnected in the future is just a way to try to let you down easy apt that moment..I know it's not a good way .It's kinda cowardly. Just move on if she wants to get in touch with you she will.
It might be too soon since she isn’t fully over you. I’m 18F experiencing a bit of heart ache after my recent relationship ending. I’ve decided that I will not contact my ex until I am completely over him. I suggest you do the same. I’m so sorry for your pain. the only way out is through. sit with your pain work on yourself recover and it’ll all be worth it in the end.
So if she’s not over me fully why not talk. If she misses me why not talk
@Bertie Not being an ass but if she doesn’t want to be with you that is a perfectly valid reason. What ever her reason may be, you have to respect it or you compromise your integrity. Losing a love or having an unrequited love can be devastating but holding onto hope when they tell you not to, your only hurting yourself.
@FallenAngel Never told me not to have hope. She actually said she’d be open to reconnecting in the future
@Bertie I think she just did bud. That is the way I would interpret it as a 40m, you have shown you want to now you have to let her be as the onus is on her to reach out to you when she is ready. Otherwise reaching out to her more will push her away more. Focus on you and who you were before her. Distractions are key at time like this.