This has been the most painful heartbreak I've ever experienced. She came into my life when I was still reeling from a breakup with a narcissistic ex. She promised me things would be different and that she loved and cherished me, only to ultimately treat me like I didn’t matter and cast me aside after seven months.
Honestly, I’m fed up. It feels easier to just act like a jerk and have casual flings without any commitments. It’s not about having an abundance mindset; I’ve never struggled to attract women. But women aren’t objects to me. I loved my ex for who she is, and no one can replace her.
Last updated on:2024-10-21T17:31:48+05:30
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I've decided to stop pursuing women entirely. It's much simpler this way. I'm done with it.
I understand that you're hurting, but I hope you take the time to heal and avoid getting caught up in the 'no strings attached' mindset. That path can lead to more numbness and sadness, preventing you from finding someone special and experiencing a genuine connection. You will move on from her, just as you have with other women before. Trust in that. Allow yourself to feel your emotions and practice self-compassion. Avoid projecting your pain onto others; focus on healing in a healthy way.
You’ll discover what lies ahead—maybe not tomorrow, but certainly the day after. Prioritize your well-being and the choices you make; never lose hope.
The pain you feel is temporary. It’s healthier for you to be alone than to stay with someone who isn’t right for you. Being with the wrong person only prevents you from finding the right one.
I’m reminding myself of this too, because I’m also tempted to give up at this moment.
I’m really sorry 😔 No one should have to endure this kind of pain, especially when someone is aware of what you’ve already been through. I can relate; my heart has been broken for the third time in my life. I’m done with it. I truly hope you find a way to get through this.
It’s not just the pain of heartbreak for me; it’s that he has invalidated my feelings for him—dismissing what I believed was love. He’s made it seem like what we shared wasn’t real, as if he never felt anything for me at all. He was only interested in the physical aspect, and now he’s found love with someone else, leaving me behind. Just the thought of her in his arms leaves my throat dry, and my chest aches at the realization that he must look at her with the kind of love I always longed for in his gaze. My eyes fill with tears when I imagine her resting her hand on him as they drift off to sleep. It breaks my heart to think that he kisses her goodbye on the forehead each morning. She wears the t-shirts of his that I once wore, falling asleep in them. I know I’ll never make the mistake of falling for someone again.
Same here... My ex shattered me into pieces. My heart and self-esteem feel completely broken because of him. I managed to pick up some of those pieces on my own and was on the path to healing. Then I met someone who offered to help me. He seemed so genuine at first, and I thought he could help me put myself back together. But instead, he destroyed everything I had worked to rebuild. Now I find myself alone, feeling lost and hurt, questioning whether I can ever trust anyone again. It’s really frustrating because I’ve always been a caring person. I don’t want to live in a world where I have to doubt everyone I meet..
This resonates with me. I let my guard down with this person, and she shattered my heart as if I meant nothing. How can someone profess their love one moment and then completely abandon you the next?
That’s exactly what I’m feeling! As a girl, I find that being casual without any expectations is just so much better right now.
Did she suddenly change or attempt to push you away after you both were deeply in love? It’s highly likely that someone else is involved, and she may not be honest about it to keep you as a backup in case things don’t go as planned. This scenario is often true. Gaining clarity about this will assist you in moving on.
Ever since my girlfriend left me, she has turned incredibly cold, indifferent, and even destructive, as if hatred has taken over her. Because of the chaos it caused in my life, I find it hard to envision myself in any new relationship. It’s been three years, and I still only think of her when I consider a long-term commitment.
I find myself thinking this constantly these days. It really only ends up hurting, lol.
Then don’t love again! Focus on u sir
You're experiencing the decline after an oxytocin boost. Just be patient; it takes time!
It doesn’t sit well with me to simplify emotions to mere chemical reactions—while that's a fact, there's always a reason behind why those chemicals are activated. You could say the same to someone grieving the loss of a loved one in a tragic accident; it doesn’t lessen that person's significance or the impact they had on your life
@Chester22 Absolutely, that's understandable. What I’m trying to convey is that your mind will gradually adjust to life without that person. Right now, the pain feels very intense. Losing a family member is a different experience compared to ending a relationship.
I swallowed their lies completely, thinking they were something extraordinary.
I genuinely believe that what you suggested is the right approach for OP. However, at the end of the day, OP's feelings mirror those of many others because love can be incredibly challenging for sincere individuals. Being a good and genuine person often leads to heartbreak and disappointment.
Don’t act like a jerk. You want to be able to face yourself in the mirror every day and feel good about who you are. Playing games with women just for physical pleasure isn’t likely to make you feel fulfilled, especially if you’re seeking something genuine, deep, and committed.
I still have feelings for my ex. She said many things during our relationship that she didn’t follow through on. I envisioned marrying her and starting a family together, and she wanted those things too. This situation is incredibly frustrating and confusing. I miss her every day, even though she’s been unkind.
I’m uncertain about what steps to take next. I’m dating, but I’m not developing any deep connections with other women at the moment. I truly believed my ex was the one for me; it felt that way. But I refuse to compromise my integrity. I’m a good person, and that should shine through. I won’t betray my own values just to attract someone new.
I still care deeply for my ex, brother. Even though she might have moved on, my feelings for her remain strong. She has broken all my dreams.
Perhaps it’s best to stay single and avoid getting involved in anything for now. Ever since my ex cheated on me, I’ve begun to feel indifferent about love. I used to have intense baby fever and a strong desire for a family, but now those feelings have completely faded. It’s time to focus on living your life without the need for lust or love—find contentment within yourself.
Before all of this happened, I met people with high dating standards who didn’t rush into relationships. I admired their approach; they carried themselves with a confidence that made them seem unfazed by the pursuit of others, and their words felt authentic. It dawned on me that people often express attraction without truly knowing you, which is a strange concept. Genuine connections are rare, so consider taking a break from dating for now. In doing so, you might discover more sincere things to appreciate in life.
I'm right by your side, buddy. The hurt is like nothing you've ever experienced.