My ex-boyfriend broke up with me almost three weeks ago. Since then, I’ve been an emotional wreck—crying a lot and feeling a deep sense of pain. I’ve heard that he’s doing fine and doesn’t seem to be struggling at all. It’s hard to understand how he can seem so happy.
The breakup came out of nowhere. He ended things over text, completely unexpectedly. When I asked if I had done something wrong, he said I hadn’t. When I asked why he wanted to break up, he told me it was what was best for me, and said he never wanted to upset me. But by breaking up, he did just that.
He often wouldn’t be honest about how he felt. For example, he’d agree to play video games with me even when he didn’t want to, just to avoid upsetting me. I didn’t like that he wasn’t being truthful—I would’ve preferred him to just tell me how he really felt.
We used to work together, but I moved back to my hometown. A friend of mine still works with him, though. She texted me recently, saying he’s been telling people at work about our breakup and sharing our private messages. The reasons he’s giving for the breakup don’t match what he told me.
Now, almost three weeks later, everyone at his workplace seems to know about our breakup, has seen our messages, and heard various reasons for why he ended things. The explanations he’s giving don’t add up.
He initially told me it was because it was best for him and that he didn’t want to hurt me. My friend heard it was because of the distance between us—we were about an hour and twenty minutes apart. Someone else said it was because I stressed him out, and another person heard that I was putting pressure on him. He never shared any of these reasons with me while we were dating. Why couldn’t he just be honest?
I’m left not knowing what to believe anymore.
He is autistic.
Last updated on:2024-10-25T12:45:08+05:30
Comments (11)
It's possible he's projecting his own insecurities onto you.
It's possible he's not aware of how his actions are affecting you.
You might want to try talking to him about it.
If your friend continues to share information about him, you may need to distance yourself from her.
It's understandable that you're confused and hurt. Try to focus on what you know is true.
It's unfair that he's making you feel even worse by spreading rumors.
I also didn’t like that he did not tell me the truth about why he was breaking up with me.
It's possible he's trying to cope with the breakup in his own way.
However, sharing your private information is not the way to do it.
What should I do? I don’t have social media, and I was so upset with him, that I deleted everything.
It sounds like he handled the breakup very poorly. It's unfair that he's sharing your private information and giving different reasons to different people.
It's possible he's feeling guilty or ashamed about the breakup.
That might be why he's sharing your private information.
It's possible he's using your private information as a way to get attention.