To keep it brief, I (25F) have been in a long-distance situationship with another woman (25F) for a little over three months. Initially, she seemed very interested and gave the impression she wanted to be with me (looking back, maybe it was love bombing?). Throughout those months, I treated her like a queen—constantly complimenting her, giving her gifts, cooking for her, and generally treating her well. However, she never reciprocated those efforts.
Over time, she started pulling away and seemed to lose interest without directly saying anything. She began avoiding my calls and didn’t want to do things like watch movies together anymore. When I confronted her, she got angry and said she didn’t owe me anything because we weren’t officially dating. I later found out, through checking her Twitter, that she has feelings for a male classmate from university. The strange thing is, she always claimed to hate men and insisted she was 100% lesbian, with all her previous relationships being with women.
Now, I don’t even know where we stand because she still texts me occasionally, but it feels like she just wants to be friends. I’m not interested in that, though.
I’m so confused. Any advice?
Last updated on:2024-10-28T12:36:51+05:30
Comments (6)
Don't let her use her sexuality as an excuse for her behavior. It's not a free pass to be hurtful.
Don't let her inconsistent behavior confuse you. She's not worth your time or energy.
Her actions speak louder than her words. Don't let her gaslight you into doubting your own feelings.
She sounds like a classic narcissist. It's a common tactic to love bomb and then withdraw. You deserve better.
It's tough, but it's important to cut ties completely. She's clearly not ready for a serious relationship, and continuing to talk to her will only prolong the pain.
It sounds like she was emotionally manipulative. Remember, you deserve someone who reciprocates your love and effort. Don't let her gaslight you into thinking you're the problem.