My ex and I broke up eight months ago. He went from saying he could never live without me to claiming we wouldn’t work together in less than a week. We had a seven-month relationship that felt like a lifetime. He was the one who fell first and captivated me with his attention and care.
I’ve struggled with bad teeth due to neglect in my teenage years and late dental care. He was aware of this from day one, and although I’ve done a lot to fix them, I still couldn't complete the treatment because of my financial situation. I was upfront about everything from the start, and he offered to help a few times, but I never took him up on it.
He was 9 years older than me, and we were even discussing marriage soon. I don’t know what changed, but it felt like he flipped a switch. Suddenly, he didn’t want to talk and always seemed busy. I was spiraling as he treated me poorly during the last month; I could never have imagined he would leave me because he always seemed so in love. But it turns out it was all a facade! In that final month, he offered to help with my dental issues again, and I finally accepted. When he asked why I was accepting his help now, I told him it was because I loved him and could see him as my husband, so it was okay if he wanted to assist. He didn’t respond, which felt like he was only offering to appear caring, and once I accepted, he completely changed. I know this can’t be the only reason, but it has made me feel terrible about myself. He ultimately said my dental issues were a dealbreaker! Why did he even start the relationship in the first place? I was living my life happily until he came along and turned it upside down!
I can’t comprehend how someone can change so drastically. He used to joke that if my teeth were perfect, I would never have looked at him because I was out of his league! He love-bombed me, but it never felt forced; it all seemed genuine! Initially, I wasn't keen on the relationship, but he put in so much effort to make me fall for him that, when I did, I found myself more in love than he was.
Now, six months after the breakup, I’m still struggling to believe he could treat me this way and fall out of love so easily. I honestly thought he might come back, but I was mistaken. I miss him every single day, yet I will never reach out because of the disrespect I felt at the end of our relationship and afterward. I blamed myself for everything, thinking he might just be going through a rough patch and would come around when things settled down, but I guess that was it! I will never see or speak to him again. It’s just hard to understand how he can move on so effortlessly while I’m struggling every day!
Last updated on:2024-10-29T18:02:22+05:30
Comments (4)
This is so painful to read. It's clear he wasn't the man you thought he was. Remember, you deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are, not for superficial things.
It's shocking how quickly someone's true colors can show. You're better off without him.
First of all, I'm truly sorry you went through that. He behaved terribly, and honestly, you're better off without him.
Anyone who could treat you that way doesn't deserve your time, love, or heart. Love means embracing someone completely, flaws and all. That’s what makes it real. I’m a guy with a big head and a small body, and my wife and kids love me for it—and they tease me about it, too!
It’s tough when you invest so much in a relationship, hoping it will last, only for it to end like this. Sending you the biggest hugs. Keep yourself occupied with things that lift you up and remind you that he didn’t deserve you. You absolutely deserve someone who misses you when you’re gone and looks forward to being with you.
You're an incredible person, and you will find happiness again. I promise.
Thankyou for saying all that! needed that! I have been keeping myself busy but it’s still on my mind all the time. Idk how long would it take before i feel whole again. Reading this really gave me hope for myself tho <3