In the past couple of weeks, I met someone—let's call her "F." She recently went through a breakup with her ex, "E," who was a friend of a friend, "A." F and E had an argument that day and decided to break up, so A invited her to join our Discord server. When she joined, F was crying hard. I didn’t really know what was going on, but I tried to cheer her up and realized she and I connected really deeply.
Over the next few days, F started spending more time gaming and hanging out with me and some friends. The more time I spent with her, the more I realized I was falling for her. F is a sweet, generous person who puts others first, but she’s been hurt a lot, so she tends to keep things to herself.
One day, we were playing as usual, and she brought up that she doesn’t see me as “her future.” She said maybe we could date casually, just for fun. But I’m not into short-term relationships, so I disagreed—even though we weren’t even dating yet! Plus, I can’t really start dating anyone seriously right now because of my studies.
Then the situation got more complicated. E asked F out, and she told me about it. Like an idiot, I showed up at the same spot with a friend. E got angry and pressured F, which ended with him following her to her apartment door. I could tell F was upset and looking for help, but I didn’t step in. After E left, I asked her what had happened, but she brushed it off. When I started to press for answers, she suddenly kissed me, taking my first kiss. I was stunned and felt completely lost.
After that, things started going downhill. F became distant, posting about E and hinting that if it came down to a choice, she’d pick him because they’d been together before. Lately, she’s been leaving me on read or sending me dry, one-word replies.
The worst part is, I’m in so deep that I can’t stop thinking about her. I know I should probably let her go and let things play out naturally, but I’m scared she’ll just get her heart broken all over again. I’d appreciate any advice—ethical or not. I just need something that will help me figure out what to do.
Last updated on:2024-11-07T16:57:23+05:30
Comments (7)
I'm here for you if you need to talk. We can chat or just hang out. Sometimes, just having someone to listen can help.
Have you tried talking to F about your concerns and feelings? Sometimes, honest communication can help resolve issues.
you can't control someone else's feelings. All you can do is be yourself and hope for the best.
Well, this is quite the dramatic turn of events! Maybe you could write a screenplay about it. Just kidding, but seriously, take care of yourself.
Maybe try looking at this as a learning experience. It can be painful, but it's also an opportunity to grow and become stronger.
It's clear you care deeply about F, but it might be best to distance yourself for a while. Pushing her or forcing a relationship won't help anyone.
It seems like you're in a complicated situation. Maybe try taking a step back and focusing on yourself. Give yourself time to heal and process your emotions.