It’s been one day of no contact. I’ve been blocked on Snapchat and Facebook, but he still follows my TikTok, and I still have his number. I reached out recently, but he told me I need to stop messaging him because it’s hurting him. While staying connected makes me feel better, I know it doesn’t feel that way for him. I’m on antidepressants, yet I’m still struggling with this deep sadness. He’s constantly on my mind, and I can barely find the energy to get out of bed, let alone take care of myself.
I’m trying to trust that if it’s meant to be, it will happen in God’s timing, but I don’t want to hold on too tightly to that hope. Can someone please reassure me that it eventually gets better? It’s only been a day, and it’s still so hard to believe this is real. I feel sick, and I miss him more than words can say. The urge to reach out is so strong.
Last updated on:2024-11-08T14:37:29+05:30
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Healing takes time, and giving each other space is essential. To make this easier, you have to let go and stop holding on to hope. If he’s asking for space and you try to get closer, it’ll only push him further away. I know it’s hard—I was in the same place just a few months ago. Holding on to the hope of getting back together only made the pain last longer. Once I accepted that she was gone, I started to heal. My advice: take time apart and focus on improving yourself.
I'm trying so hard to focus on myself and move forward, but I just can’t stop thinking about him and the future we could’ve had. I keep hoping he’ll come back, even though I know it’s not healthy. I’m too scared to text him again because I already did, and he told me to stop. Now, I’m just waiting to see if he reaches out to me. I know it’s wrong to 'wait,' but honestly, that’s what I’m doing. I’m holding onto the hope that he’ll say, 'I can’t do this without you. I can’t believe I let you go. Let’s try again.' I just wish for that so badly. It’s breaking my heart.
@Madeline I know it’s incredibly tough right now, but patience is your best ally. A similar thing happened to a friend of mine—he broke up with his ex, and she kept begging for another chance. Every time he saw her messages, his mood shifted, and he felt increasingly pressured and uncomfortable. Even when she told him she loved him, he only responded out of pity. He did want to consider getting back together, but he needed space. Every message she sent pushed him further away until he ultimately blocked her. If he has blocked you, it’s likely you’ve reached a point where enough has been said. The best thing you can do now is to give him space. If he reaches out, be polite and respond normally, but avoid pleading or asking to get back together. If he doesn’t reach out, don’t initiate contact. It may take time, but it’s something you have to do for your own healing. Don’t be too hard on yourself—it’s only the first day. Try to reflect on the experience, understand what went wrong, and work on yourself. But remember, healing takes time. Best of luck.
@PaulNoe Thank you so much. He apologized for blocking me a few days ago, explaining that he needed to do it to heal, and I totally understand. If we were still connected on Snap, it would be too much for me. I’m feeling really lonely right now and just wish I could have my boy back. My heart feels shattered. I hope that once we’ve both healed, he might consider a second chance.
@Madeline Right now, prioritize yourself. Let him be for the time being. As I mentioned, take some time to reflect on your actions leading to the breakup and work on improving them. Give your ex some space, and over time, he may reach out. When that happens, you can have a calm conversation about what went wrong, communicate openly, and establish healthy boundaries.
@PaulNoe thankyou so much. 💕