No matter how much my friend says she loves me, wants to marry me, and dreams of us living together in her country, I know I can never be her girlfriend. She has a boyfriend and lives far away. I can't hold on to the hope that one day she'll be single, or that I’ll move to her country, and we’ll be together. We’ll never be more than long-distance friends.
I’ll probably never fully understand her true feelings or intentions. I don’t know what she means when she tells me she’s in love with me and wants to marry me, despite having a boyfriend. The person I love most is already committed to someone else, and I came into her life too late.
Last updated on:2024-11-18T15:41:02+05:30
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Hey, this isn’t a real friend. I know the attention might feel good right now, but trust me—you need to cut this person out of your life immediately. She’s leading you on, likely just for her own amusement. I’ve had a friend like this before, and I can tell you, she’s not good for you in any way
I don’t know how to let go of her completely. I want to, but over the past few years, I’ve grown so attached to her. I know it’s probably for the best, even though we’re only connected online.
It's unfair for her to keep stringing you along like this—it seems she's seeking the validation she's not getting in her relationship with her boyfriend, and that's not right. Has she shown any genuine intention of meeting you or taking things further? Someone who truly values being with you will put in the effort to make it happen. You deserve to set and maintain clear boundaries with her. It's time to stop allowing her to access you in this way.
I’m not sure if she truly cares. We had a plan for her to visit me in November, and I was arranging everything—willing to cover all expenses here and host her at my place, so all she needed to handle was her plane ticket. We had been planning this for months, but a few days ago, she abruptly told me she’s not coming. In that moment, I knew any chance of us dating was gone. I don’t think she loves me as much as she says. Honestly, I think I love her more than she loves me.
@RalphDYunk She has no intention of meeting you. Even if she cares about you, it seems she’s seeking attention and gratification while engaging in an emotional affair that crosses boundaries. I’ve been in the position of being the other woman before, and I know how heartbreaking it is to wait for someone to choose you when you’re willing to give them everything. But you don’t need her choice to validate your worth—you deserve real, wholehearted love. I hope you find it, and the first step is choosing yourself.
Sending you a big hug—put on some Chappell Roan, let the tears flow, and let it out. ❤️
@ChelseaJhon thank u 🫂i think i will actually 😭