I’ve been wrestling with the question of why my partner cheated. A part of me thinks that understanding their reasons might bring some closure, but another part fears it will only cause more pain. For those who’ve been through this, did seeking an explanation help or make things worse? Would you suggest asking for answers, or is it better to just move on without them?
Last updated on:2025-03-11T09:37:37+05:30
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It took time, but I eventually found peace and happiness again.
I learned that sometimes, the best way to move on is to let go of the past.
I went through a similar situation. Seeking answers only caused more pain.
It might be best to let go of the need for answers and focus on moving forward.
Sometimes, the truth can be more painful than the unknown.
There's no right or wrong answer. Do what feels right for you.
It's completely understandable to want answers, but also to fear the pain.
There’s never a clear explanation. One moment it’s it was this then it’s no it was that followed by ‘you made me feel this way and finally, actually it was this. I know you’re looking for answers because it’s the only way your mind can try to make sense of it. But honestly, I don’t think they even have the self-awareness to understand why they did it. I blamed myself so much, and he fed into that guilt as well. But as I healed, I realized it was his choice all along—it was on him. No one deserves to be cheated on. He was battling his own issues, and it had nothing to do with me. I’m so sorry, OP. I truly understand how deeply it hurts. I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but with time, you’ll make it through. Therapy was a huge help for me—just having someone to talk to, to listen, and to reassure me that it wasn’t my fault.