My situationship ended 9 days ago. He told me he “wasn’t feeling the feelings he should” to pursue a relationship. Looking back, there were red flags—he admitted to having a fear of commitment, and now I see that a lot of what he appreciated about our relationship were things he disliked about his ex (they broke up just three months before we met). But honestly, I overlooked all of that. There was so much good that I justified the rest.
I’m struggling to accept that it’s really over. We spent 2-3 days a week together for four months, and now I’m just supposed to believe that he never truly felt anything? I can’t wrap my head around it. I can’t accept that he isn’t missing me too. How do I move past this? I feel so emotionally drained, and it’s affecting my focus on my PhD, which I really can’t afford to neglect much longer.
If he hadn’t been so respectful and communicative during the breakup, I might have been able to channel anger to get through this. But I can’t even be angry—I’m just endlessly sad and longing. I’ve thought about breaking no contact, hoping that the embarrassment or his response might spark anger, but he only lives a 7-minute walk away. I’m terrified of running into him and dealing with the fallout, and that’s keeping me from doing it.
Last updated on:2024-11-20T11:51:45+05:30
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He didn’t say he never had feelings he admitted he wasn’t feeling what he should. That honesty meant a lot. It’s going to take time to move on—probably a few months. Going no contact will make the process easier and blocking him on social media can help you start feeling better sooner.
Thank you for saying that you make a great point. I still can't quite figure out what this feeling is. In every other way, we were in a relationship. I suppose it’s just going to hurt for a while. I’ve initiated no contact and removed him from Instagram as soon as he made it clear how final his decision was.
I don’t understand how people can just end everything and move on so suddenly as if the other person’s feelings don’t matter. That’s exactly what happened to me—one day we were together and the next it was all over. The pain feels unbearable, and I can’t wrap my head around how someone I love so deeply could do this. And here I am still loving her feeling like such a loser.