Hey everyone, I really need your advice. To give some background, I’ve been in an on-and-off relationship with this guy for over five years. We broke up because he was going through some personal issues, and he mentioned that I was just too much for him. We broke up last year for the same reasons, got back together but now he’s decided he doesn’t want to continue the relationship because it feels like a toxic cycle, even though he still loves me. So, we broke up yesterday.
It wasn’t really a mutual decision— I begged him not to leave and he begged me to stop. We had what felt like our final conversation where I cried and expressed everything I felt. But since he’s made up his mind there’s nothing more I can do. My plan is to give myself some space to process the pain accept the situation, and hopefully move forward.
However we’ve already booked a 5-day trip to another country for next year. He suggested we go as friends since the tickets are non-refundable and after the trip, we’ll cut ties for good.
I’m really torn about what to do. I’ve been stressing out about it. It’s already so hard to let go, and the idea of seeing him while still heartbroken feels unbearable. I keep telling myself that I’ll be okay by then, but what if I’m not? What would you do in this situation? Any advice on healing would be so helpful. I don’t feel like I’m in the right state of mind to make a decision right now. ?
Last updated on:2024-11-20T14:00:13+05:30
Comments (4)
If you have an entire year, I'd suggest sitting with it for a while. It's only fair that both of you want to go on this trip so when the right time comes you can talk about how to find a compromise. You could always choose different accommodations so you both get to go without crossing paths during the trip. In the meantime, I recommend watching some shows and putting this on hold until you feel a bit more at peace with everything.
i’ve got like 3 months left before the trip 😩
@Hemali006 Honestly I don't have the perfect answer but I can say it’ll probably feel pretty uncomfortable to go with him and it might take away from the whole vacation vibe. If you do decide to go, I’d recommend making the most of the time you have and moving forward as much as you can.
@Millie1Sen will try and then decide 😓