I’ve never been in one but seeing posts about this stuff is straight-up scary. I’m super drunk and so mad. Like why are people doing all this relationship-level stuff for someone who won’t even make it official? I get FWB—no feelings just vibes—but this ‘situationship’ thing? Nah, it’s wild. You’re basically a couple, with feelings and all but they don’t even want to commit? Makes me wanna hurl just thinking about it. I’m newly single, and honestly, this dating scene is terrifying. Kinda feels like staying single forever might be the move.
Last updated on:2024-11-20T17:54:50+05:30
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It’s so draining honestly I feel totally messed up from it
For sure — we did everything together and were basically the same person. He said I like you more than a friend but less than a girlfriend
@Kennedy The worst part is how they just use you for emotional validation then act like it was nothing.
@EnzoMOBB That’s how mine is. Wants me to do all the relationship stuff then hits me with 'I was never romantically into you after all this time. Like I feel affection, but I’d never date you.' He says I’m just a distraction from his life.
m in my late 30s, dated guys in their 30s and 40s and like... no one wants to commit, everyone’s just into situationships. It’s kinda rough
I’m the living example otherwise
Well yeah, you're in your late 30s, so why would you expect them to commit? What held you back from getting married younger?
@DeepEyed I Can't even take care of myself right now, I don't plan to get married until I'm like 40
My 5-month situationship messed me up way more than my 2.5-year relationship did. Lesson learned never doing that again.
10 months in a situationship hurt more than my 6-year relationship ending 3 months before the wedding... life’s wild fr.
@Quinn22 I needed to read this! Thank you! I felt crazy for feeling this way.
@Madeline You’re not tripping. Some people just hit different no matter how long they’re around. I felt grew and loved more in 10 months than I did in the last 10 years.
Right !? I thought I was not normal for feeling that say.. why is that do you think ?
@Eleanor I think the biggest thing for me was that my situationship ended just cause he had to move to a different state for family stuff. I knew from the start we wouldn’t have much time together but when he left it felt like he was just ripped away out of nowhere when things were actually good. On the other hand me and my ex broke up after a year of constant fighting and drama, and it just felt like it was time to end. I definitely romanticized everything with my situationship since it was my first time experiencing that kind of vibe, so that’s probably why I’m struggling to move on. People can be super judgmental when you tell them you’re trying to get over someone you weren’t even with for long, but honestly you won’t get it till you’ve been there.
Situationships are just a chill way of saying, I think I can do better but you’ll do for now until someone else comes along.If someone’s really into you, they’ll lock it down no questions. Otherwise they’re either not that into you or just scared of commitment.
Basically, I’m not tryna commit but I still wanna do relationship vibes with you.