Hey y’all so like 3 weeks ago me and my long-distance girlfriend broke up. I won’t get into too much detail, but basically she called me and said even though she still loved me she had doubts about our relationship. She tried to push those doubts away but couldn’t so she told me she wasn’t confident in us anymore and didn’t want to continue.
That call lasted almost 3 hours and honestly it felt kinda good by the end. I thought she was really listening to me and I could tell it was hard for her too. We ended the convo on a much better note than we started and she even thanked me for what I said. She told me she needed time to think and didn’t want me to text or call her so I left it there feeling a little hopeful.
Two days later I checked in to see if she wanted to talk more but she just said "I NEED SPACE AND TIME." So I left her alone for another 8 days and then reached out to ask how she was doing and feeling about everything. She ghosted me for a day and then replied saying she was fine and going on a trip with her parents. The next day, I sent her one last message telling her how much I love her but it’s been over a week now, and she still hasn’t replied.
I noticed she’s disappeared from social media but I found her private TikTok (yeah I wasn’t supposed to but I did). She’s been posting stuff about “putting yourself first” “letting go of what doesn’t serve you” and “don’t stick around people who stress you out like friends or boyfriends. Basically she’s on this healing journey and focused only on herself.
Seeing those posts really hurt because I thought she was reflecting on us, but it seems like she’s just convincing herself this breakup was the right move. It’s also wild because for the past two years, we lived together in another country, and that was such a huge change for both of us. I even tried to get her to come back with me but she said she neded some months at home to figure things out.
She’s been through a lot too—her relationship with her parents is tough, and I know this time has been super stressful for her. But man, I miss her so much. For the last two years I’ve put her first in everything—our relationship our future, even over my own career. I was ready to give it all up for her, and now it feels like I got left with nothing.
At this point I really want to talk to her, just to get some closure. That last call and the messages we exchanged left me with more questions than answers. But after seeing her TikToks I feel like reaching out won’t do anything. She’s clearly focusing on herself right now and seems happy about it.
What do you guys think? Should I reach out or just let it go? I really love her and want her back even after all this. We’ve had so many beautiful moments together and I just can’t shake this feeling that she still loves me even if she’s on this me-first journey right now.
Last updated on:2024-11-25T13:45:35+05:30
Comments (8)
You’re better off without someone who doesn’t know what they want.
Maybe she’s just scared. Sometimes people need time to process their feelings.
She’s clearly not ready for a relationship right now.
Ugh ghosting is the worst. It’s so disrespectful.
Heartbreak hits hard man.
Maybe she’ll come around eventually.
Damn that’s a tough one. I’d give her some space and let her figure things out.
this is rough. Sounds like she’s really checked out.
Sorry but you gotta cut all contact. It's done. I know it sucks it’s the worst. I even stopped dating just to avoid feeling like that again. But yeah it’s over.