So I’m 27M and she’s 26F. We met last year during a work trip and hit it off right away. But she was engaged, so I didn’t try to take it anywhere.
Fast forward a week she reaches out and we start talking—a lot. Like all day every day barely sleeping kind of vibe. This went on for 6-7 months then out of nowhere, she blocks me. Turns out, she was trying to fix things with her ex who had major issues with us talking.
We didn’t talk all summer but then another work trip came up and I realized I still had feelings—like I was really crushing on her. One night after a work thing, we hung out in her hotel room talked for hours and cuddled. But then she pulled away and didn’t want to meet again.
At work she was giving me jealous vibes like staring when I talked to other female colleagues even texting me once to ask if I had fun with them. Later, I went to her room to try and talk, and she told me we couldn’t do this anymore and that we’re just colleagues.
But after the trip she started texting again like nothing happened. Flirty vibes sending pics—it felt like old times. Then two weeks later, she went on a trip with her friends and texted me saying We’re just colleagues and I’ve decided to stop.
Now I’m stuck. I was ready to drop everything for her and she’s just done like that. Can someone explain what’s going on in her head? I feel like I’m losing it.
Last updated on:2024-11-25T18:02:21+05:30
Comments (18)
This is what you get for chasing someone already taken.
She’s lowkey super manipulative too.
Nothing else to do but take the L and learn. Karma’s real.
Bro if she did him dirty she’ll do the same to you. It’s just a matter of time.
Don’t play yourself—cut her off and move on.
@VincentSP THIS 100%
But what if I can’t? She’ll probs hit me up again soon.
@KendallDoug1 Block her !
@KendallDoug1 Let her know straight up you're not interested and set your boundaries. If she can't respect that just block her and ghost any attempts she makes to reach out.
@VincentSP Yo I’m into you and we work at the same place.
@KendallDoug1 Not gonna lie you really shouldn’t be into this.
@VincentSP Yeah, it’s tough when you’re in love but what can you do y'know?
When you say manipulative what do you mean? And tbh I didn’t go after her while they were still together. I was straight up about her needing to break up and take some time for herself before we started anything.
@KendallDoug1 But you kept talking.
@BellaDio66 We both felt this was the move
@KendallDoug1 I mean she was lowkey manipulating you by sending messages she had no business sending. Like what’s up with her throwing looks at you when you’re talking to other girls and she’s with someone else? Didn’t that feel weird to you?
@BellaDio66 All the side-eyes and jealousy popped off this year when she was single not when she was with her ex.
@KendallDoug1 You know when you get with someone who's just out of a breakup, there's a chance... maybe even a good one, that they'll try to make it work
@BellaDio66 It wasn't just last time we met it's been like 5 months
@KendallDoug1 It was a risk you took, just remember there are no guarantees with stuff like this. You’ll bounce back and move on.
@BellaDio66 The biggest problem is we work at the same company and are colleagues...