I was in a 1.5-year relationship and thought he was the one we vibed on the same level and I was actually happy. Then he cheated and to make it worse he joked about it with his friends. Now I'm heartbroken losing weight and not even doing the stuff I used to love. Does it get easier? Does the pain ever just go away? I really wish I had someone to talk to.
Last updated on:2024-11-29T17:59:23+05:30
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I’ll give you some hope. The mark they left never fades but you learn to detach emotionally and it gets easier. You realize you never really needed their love to live your best life. That mark shows what you both wanted and what you’ll avoid next time. It’s like a double-edged sword.
I still see her in my dreams still feel the piece she took with her. My body’s breaking down. I’ve got 5 injuries now been doing sports my whole life without a scratch. Now, 5 injuries and a permanent spine issue all from doing nothing.
Had a year thing broke up and I’m still single. Lost all the respect I had for them so it was easy to move on plus I ended it cause they couldn’t even stand up for me.
But yeah, the damage this relationship did to me? Beyond repair. I can’t trust anyone, scared of getting into anything, crushed my confidence and self-esteem, and so much more.
I know it sounds cliche but time’s the only thing that helps, bit by bit. Each day gets a little better than the last. It becomes part of you, so the sooner you accept it and live with it, the faster you start moving on.
still around and it wasn’t even a relationship to top it off
Almost a year in and I still haven’t healed. They’re still in my head every day even pop up in my dreams. Anything that reminds me of them still hits. The struggle’s ongoing but I’m managing a bit better. I used to be upset literally every day for almost a year now it’s more like once every couple weeks. The urge to check on them has also kinda faded.
Sorry you had to go through that tho. Honestly seems like you dodged a bullet not being with them anymore.
It won’t get easier till you start putting yourself first. If that’s tough maybe try helping others out. Giving back can make you see your own worth. Plus being there for people can distract you from thinking about your ex. Just give it a shot — if someone needs help volunteer. If you’re chatting with a friend instead of bringing up your ex ask them how they’re doing what they’re struggling with. Then really listen and offer advice if they’re down for it. It’ll help take your mind off your own stuff and remind you that everyone’s dealing with something. I’m not saying your pain doesn’t matter — but helping others will bring you closer to healing.