Hey everyone
So I’m 19m. I just found out from her IG story that she’s been dating someone else even though she was telling me she loved me and we were in a really close relationship. She’d lovebombed me a bunch of times and I totally fell for it. I’m just kinda shook because it all came out of nowhere and she didn’t even tell me herself—just posted about it like it was no big deal.
I struggle with severe depression and manic bipolar which I guess is relevant here but I’ve been in so much pain these past few days. I’m heartbroken and can barely do anything just crying a lot because she lied to me and was the one who started the relationship, saying she wanted my attention.
Anyone have advice on how to deal with this?
Last updated on:2024-12-02T17:35:50+05:30
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you gotta vibe with yourself like really know who you are. figure out your values and stick to them. find some inspo in role models and mentors. stay curious and show yourself some love!
I’m lowkey going through something similar.
It’s good to remember there’s nothing wrong with you. The way they acted or treated you has nothing to do with you. It’s more about how they see love and attraction. At the end of the day it’s their issue not yours and you couldn’t have changed how things went down.
It was totally out of your control and it says more about them than it does about you. If anything, her having a boyfriend but still love-bombing you shows that she found you attractive enough to do all that. With that in mind you’ll probably meet someone who sees you even better and who doesn’t have all the baggage that made her act this way in the first place.
If you’re feeling down it might feel like you’re stuck. But staying home in your bed isn’t always the move cause that’s where it hits the hardest. Try doing something you actually like like shopping grabbing your favorite food or playing a sport. It’ll help take your mind off things.
It might feel hard at first but once you push through you’ll feel way better than if you stayed stuck in your head all day.
Time heals everything, trust.
thanks so much for the advice hope things get better for you too! i’ll do my best to get through this