I've been dating my bf since Jan 2024

I've been dating my bf since Jan 2024. We both have middle school kids and live 1 hour apart.
He's got two childhood besties from grade school who live in UK and live very different lives from him. One (R) is a rich lawyer and the other (J) is some kind of dental surgeon. I haven’t met either of them.
They were out of touch for years but reconnected like 3 years ago. Since then they’ve met up a couple of times in his hometown and chat daily in a group text. My bf tells me a lot about them and their chats. Both guys are divorced—R is on-and-off with his baby mama while seeing other women and J recently asked for a divorce. Apparently J’s been living a double life with wild boat parties adult stars and escorts in UK. He even shares pics and explicit details in their group chat. My bf claims he doesn’t encourage it and has tried telling J it's not okay but he also says it's J’s life and not his problem.
Since they overshare so much I’ve started wondering if my personal stuff gets shared too. Turns out it does. One time my bf was showing me a text he sent them and at the end he had written My p**sy is coming over tonight. I was not okay with that. He brushed it off as guy talk.
Now he’s planning a trip with these friends to somewhere for a week. He insists there’s nothing to worry about and says he shouldn’t have even told me all this stuff about them. He says he’s with me and only wants me. But honestly, I’m not cool with this trip—especially knowing their vibes. I told him I’m not comfortable with it and wouldn’t talk to him if he goes. It feels like a dealbreaker to me.
Oh and for context I once caught him on FB dating. He denied it and I stupidly let it slide but that’s still in the back of my mind.

Last updated on:2024-12-04T13:10:28+05:30