So, my ex and I broke up 4 months ago. She said she doesn’t love me anymore. A month ago we talked and she made it clear she’s not thinking about getting back together. I’ve been going to therapy and I have good days but lately I’ve been feeling like crap again. I know she’s moved on even though she mentioned missing some of the stuff we did and parts of who I am. She said some tough stuff too like I don’t think I needed a relationship and I definitely don’t need another guy in my future.
I’ve got this tiny bit of hope left, which feels natural, but honestly I just miss her and everything we had. I need some kind words, advice, anything. Please help.
Last updated on:2024-12-05T12:56:57+05:30
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I feel you. Hit 4 months yesterday and today’s just rough. It’s gonna take time tho, ups and downs are normal. Therapy’s clutch glad you’re on that. Maybe do something that makes you happy even if it’s just for a bit. One step at a time.
I’m just so over it, no energy for anything feeling super lazy.
@RomiRDX I get it. I barely feel like working out or going outside too cause I’m stuck in my head. And trust me I’m older than you so I get what you’re dealing with. If you can try talking to someone about it. What’s been helping me lately is writing stuff down. I started journaling on my phone to keep myself in check and set small goals to follow through with. There’s no magic fix to take your mind off it and honestly some days will feel better some worse. But if you can find a new hobby or something to vibe with it gives your mind a little break. That kinda thing helps a lot, bro.
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How old are you?
This might sound kinda dumb but real love takes more than 4 months to get over. I'm at 18 months now and I'm doing pretty solid. I decided to work on myself and while I’m far from perfect things are way better than they were a year ago. I even went on a date recently, and we’ve got a second one coming up. He’s super sweet.
Take your time to heal. Let the pain teach you grow through it and come out stronger. Then, find someone who’s really right for you. Honestly I keep telling myself—one day, we’ll meet someone who loves us and stays. How amazing is that?
It’s vibes but honestly working on ourselves and leveling up together hit different for me and her.
@RomiRDX That didn’t go as planned and I’m sorry. But one day you’ll either be glad it happened or they’ll come back. If they don’t just be grateful for the good times and let yourself love someone new.