I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but here goes
I hate this feeling of falling for someone but at the same time I'm kinda glad I got to experience it
So me and this guy talked for like 2 months (yeah I know not a long time but still) we literally called almost every day sometimes for hours texted all day made plans every weekend. We could just be ourselves around each other without judgment and I finally didn’t feel weird for liking what I liked. I could just vibe in his presence without hiding parts of me out of fear of being ridiculed. From the first date there was this connection that honestly freaked me out cause I didn’t think it was that easy to just click with someone. He ticked a lot of boxes for me and I know we weren’t perfect like nobody is
But anyway fast forward he messaged me a few days ago on the day we were supposed to hang out saying life happened and that we needed to go our separate ways. He explained that he just couldn’t put energy into this with everything going on in his life and honestly that hit me cause at least he was real with me. It kinda made sense especially since I also need to focus on my own stuff but I would’ve still made time for him
It just sucks cause we had that connection but I guess we met at a bad time in our lives. And knowing it could’ve turned into something more if it wasn’t for everything happening makes it so much harder to let go. I get why things had to go this way and I know there’s nothing I can say to change it. It’s been hard not to text him and yeah I know there are other people out there and time heals but it doesn’t make this hurt any less
Last updated on:2024-12-05T15:40:26+05:30
Comments (3)
I went through something similar with a girl I dated for weeks. She ended it cuz she’d just gotten out of a relationship and wanted to stay single for a bit.
I think short flings that end in the honeymoon phase hurt so much cuz you only see the good stuff. If it lasted longer you’d prob see the flaws too and the breakup might make more sense.
But now it just feels like you lost something great. Truth is the relationship was too short to really be tested. At the end of the day you want someone who’s down to commit and won’t risk losing you.
My advice? Accept it for what it is. If he ever comes back wanting to try again make sure you’re clear about what you want and don’t settle for less.
luck out there, stranger.
Been thinking bout maybe hitting him up in a few months but I gotta respect his space and just do my thing. If he wants to reach out, he will and if not, it’s chill.
Thanks for being so kind.
@sugarNspice So like a couple months later isn’t a bad move. I kinda did the same thing—hit her up like 3 months later for her bday. Told her I wasn’t sure if messaging was a good idea but said I still appreciated the memories and her as a person. She hit me back with a short cold thanks but honestly it helped me move on even more.