From the jump I was straight up about how I felt and where I thought we were at. You said we’d talk to clear things up, but nothing happened. If you weren’t into it I just wish you’d been real about it. Like a simple nah would’ve saved both of us the headache. You wouldn’t have had to deal with someone not getting the hint and I wouldn’t be here stressing, wondering what’s up.
Tbh I feel played. At first, you were all interested but then when things died down I felt like an afterthought. I tried being patient, tried understanding, but now I just feel dumb for missing the signs. I thought I deserved more respect, more honesty. I’m over it now and for your sake I hope next time you’re as clear with others as you’d want them to be with you.
Thanks for the lesson though. You really taught me a lot—like how bad I am at spotting red flags, how I get way too attached too fast and how I’ve got stuff to work on with myself. Like I wouldn’t even be in this mess if I had my own stuff figured out.
I hope you grow into someone who can show up with real honesty and respect for people. That said I do admire your grind and the work you put in. I hope you find whatever it is you’re chasing.
Feelings are messy but at least you’re owning yours. That’s something not everyone can do even when it sucks. ?
Last updated on:2024-12-10T15:03:54+05:30
Comments (8)
You don’t need closure. If they’re not vibing emotionally you already got your answers. Keep your head up stay strong, and keep it pushin.
They weren't vibing? Or were they into you more than you could match? Definitely things to think about...
Anyone who's sent a message like this knows it doesn’t really help. If anything, it can make things worse. Either you get a hurtful response or maybe they try to comfort you but honestly nothing they say is gonna make it better. The person who hurt you can’t be the one to fix it. That’s on you.
I’ve written a final email to her but I’m not sending it. She doesn’t deserve to think I care. I’ll cry in private.
Yo take what I say with a grain of salt, cause I’m speaking from my own experiences, heartbreaks, comebacks, and just where I’m at now. It's my vibe, my opinion.
But honestly from what you said it feels like you’re just wasting energy and mental space on someone who clearly didn’t respect you enough to be real. Like, why even bother with this long closure message? They know what they did and you know too. They felt what they felt and probably bounced the second they started ghosting you. People who play with your head don’t deserve any more of your time, let alone you analyzing their disrespect. By doing this, you’re just giving power to someone who didn’t value you, and it messes with your confidence. You gotta take the lesson and keep moving. Winners don’t cry over closed doors they’re already stepping through the next one. You’re better than that—they never deserved your time. Focus on learning growing, leveling up your lifeand forget about closure with people who aren’t on your level.
No one's stopping you from sending this but just my two cents: don’t.
Yeah save your emotional energy for the ones who give it back
You don't have to send it if you don't want to. Sometimes it's like a journal entry to remind you of what you've been through. The other person might not even care, who knows. Avoidant people tend to dip out with unsaid words cuz it's the easy way out.