Before I start just wanna clarify that I’m a lesbian and some of the stuff I’m about to talk about might hit hard if you’re going through something similar. So read with caution.
She lied to me (and my parents)
She always gave me a certain vibe and she never stopped lying about her feelings the situation or my issues with her. when I asked her if we were ready to take our relationship to the next level she just brushed it off and tried to smooth talk me. But she still kissed me and said she loved me. When I finally cut ties she lied about her feelings again saying I was wrong to think she didn’t love me. Never once did she step up and tell me I was misreading the situation or show me she actually cared. Short version she never cared. It was all an act. She only apologized when it was too late and never really appreciated the things I did for her. I even helped her build a PC (how we actually got close) and 3 weeks later she thanked me when I called her out for emotionally abusing me. She lied about being a lesbian too. She isn’t. I know her sexual interests and fantasies and none of them involve women in any real intimate way. And yeah she only had relationships with guys and non-binary people before me. Why’d she do this? Because two days before I came out as a lesbian. She did it to get close to me keep lying abusing me and then ghost me.
I moved out for college recently to a place super close to hers. When my parents came over to help me set up she helped too. She acted like we were just really good friends in front of them, but my parents knew we were way closer than that. And yes they know I’m gay and accept me.
TL;DR: She lied about liking me lied to my parents and lied about loving me. Just lies.
she emotionally abused me and betrayed my trust
After I helped her with the PC build she started distancing herself. She got way colder criticizing me for trying to be more confident and extroverted tomake myself and the people around me happier. She had these horny convos with her internet friends and always shrugged it off as jokes when I asked about it. After I confronted her seriously, she made her account private and unfollowed a bunch of people promising she wouldn’t do it again if it hurt me that much. But she did. During this self-improvement phase she cut me off completely leaving me feeling lonely and worthless. She spent more time obsessing over virtual characters. I’m apparently not even worth more than a fictional character. Just wow. She never paid me back the money she owed for food never thanked me never showed any appreciation. She just used me for her own benefit. When I called her out on it she denied it completely. So yeah another lie.
She abandoned me
After my final message she said she wanted space. Fine by me. But space to her meant cutting me off completely. I went along with it. Then one day after cutting ties with me she started a new relationship with a guy. She didn’t even bother removing me from her social media, probably to rub it in my face. When I saw that, I blocked her everywhere. A minute later, she did the same and I felt both relieved and heartbroken. Like it was all a show. Turns out she was secretly talking to some random internet guy behind my back. See it now?
She lied about being a lesbian. Used me for my tech skills to make me feel obligated to help her, got me to fall for her then emotionally abused me until she didn’t need me anymore. Then she ditched me. She's honestly the worst person I’ve ever met, and I just hope karma catches up with her. Oh and I hope she breaks that guy’s heart just like she did mine. He won’t be as soft on her as I was.
Finally if you you f*cking witch (her) ever read this let me just say you are seriously messed up. The worst. May you find help, because you need it.
Conclusion and why I’m saying this
Honestly this has been super hard to deal with and it’s gonna stick with me for a while. But I wanna share my story so that if you’re going through something similar you don’t feel alone. I’ll try to respond to anyone who reaches out.
So if you ever run into someone like this, spot the red flags. Don’t settle for being hurt. End it right away and let them know exactly what they did to you. You deserve better you deserve real love. And seriously you are NOT alone. There are always people who’ve been through something similar. Your wounds will heal and your pain will turn into strength to find real love.
Last updated on:2024-12-11T17:45:30+05:30
Comments (8)
You're worthy of love and happiness.
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Your strength will inspire others.
Share your story to empower others.
Don't let her negativity affect your future.
Focus on positive experiences.
Remember, you're not alone in this.
There are people who care about you.
It's okay to be angry. Express your feelings in a healthy way.
You deserve someone who appreciates and respects you. Don't settle for less.
Her behavior is a reflection of her, not you. Don't internalize her actions.
You're incredibly brave for sharing your story. Your honesty will help others.