Right now I'm going through no contact with the person I cared about the most. We had so many great memories and moments together. I get that there's no quick fix for healing but I can't shake this feeling of loneliness and the need to talk to her. I know talking to anyone else whether it's a guy friend or someone from the opposite gender won't really fill the gap. So how do I get through this? What should I be doing to cope? 'Cause honestly I just can't connect with anyone else like that.
Last updated on:2024-12-16T17:06:31+05:30
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I feel you heartbreak's rough and I get the pain. I just got dumped weeks ago
First let yourself feel it all. Don’t hold back. Pain’s gonna be your friend eventually even if it sucks right now
Second you’re already whole. You don’t need anyone to complete you you’ve got you
Lastly reconnect with yourself. Wondering how? That’s self discovery. Fall in love with who you are. Try new stuff. Get a therapist if you need one. But this is your time to start loving yourself. It’s a journey no shortcuts but it’s so worth it in the end
I wish you the best
thanks for the kind words. The thing is I’ve been through two heartbreaks already and yeah everything you said makes sense... but it feels like I end up just getting hurt again by someone I loved more than anyone else. So I guess it’s hard to stay motivated when it feels like I’m always back at square one.
I wish I knew what to say I'm going through the worst heartbreak right now and all I keep thinking is I’ll never find anyone like them like I’ll probably just be single forever. Sending you hugs tho that’s all I can say I’m in the same boat
Thank you for your kind words
I handle it pretty badly. I go on a bender cry a lot when I’m sober and just stay on the couch for days with the blinds shut. If I manage to eat or brush my teeth, that’s a win.
After I sit in my feelings for a bit I’ll find a therapist read a bunch of books and philosophy and then probably move to another country because everything around me reminds me of them—like, that bar’s where we had our first date that park’s where we kissed for the first time etc.
Then I’ll try dating again before I’m ready because everyone tells me to. Go on some dates feel worse and then just trust my own instincts and stop dating. A few months later I’ll feel kinda normal again without even realizing it and meet someone randomly. Then the cycle starts over. Hopefully it stops eventually.
Oof I'm really sorry to hear that I wish I could just switch cities or uni but that's not happening (she's actually in my class too as if things couldn’t get worse)
@TheWarrior At least class is only a few hours a week and you can sit the opposite side of the room.
I got stuck living with one ex for a month after. Even though she broke up with me I loved her so let her keep the bedroom and slept on an inflatable mattress in the spare room that had a leak so I’d wake up every morning on the hard floor. Then go and get ready for work brushing my teeth next to the girl who broke me.
When she was home it sucked like she was right there but the person I loved most felt like a stranger on the street. But if she didn’t come home on like a Saturday my mind would spiral and that was even worse