my ex dumped me 3 months ago and I just found out last week he’s got a new gf. I legit fell apart and feel like I’ve completely lost my will to live. I wake up crying go to sleep crying. I’ve gained weight and honestly have no clue what to do with myself anymore.
It feels like this pain is never gonna go away like it’s only gonna get worse until I just give up. I’m only 23 which is crazy young tbh but it’s starting to feel like the only way out. The only thing stopping me is my family and friends I could never do that to them.
Does this ever get better? please does it actually go away? I can’t keep living like this.
Last updated on:2024-12-23T00:34:06+05:30
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I have been in this same position, and it does get better. when? I don’t know, but one day, you wake up and realize that the pain is just a bit less, and one random day you think to yourself “I haven’t thought of him today”, and you then realize you’re moving on. in the meantime, I highly recommend therapy, that was the only thing that helped me through the pain and not feel like a mess all the time.
I know it’s kinda cliché but hit the gym or go for a run to shake off the heartbreak. Trust me working out really helps your mental health. Plus you mentioned gaining weight so seeing yourself get fitter will feel amazing too. Don’t even think about giving up I’ve been through so many heartbreaks and things always get better :)
Thanks I'm gonna hit the gym next week hoping it'll help. Appreciate the advice!
Yeah the pain fades over time. So what if you’ve gained a little weight or run into him?
We were long distance so it’s not like I’m gonna just run into him
@Homisick I’d focus on myself and level up. Don’t waste any more tears on that guy. Put your energy into YOU that’s what matters way more than how he treated you. And no more long-distance stuff you never really know what they’re on.
I feel you. Healing's tough like there's this empty space in your heart only he could fill. It's like something’s missing, and the more you reach for it the more it hurts 'cause he’s not yours anymore. That pain? Yeah it lingers and it sucks so bad.
So what now? Focus on you. Set goals meet new people pick up hobbies hit the gym whatever gets you moving forward. But don’t stalk his socials or dwell on the past it’s not worth it. Those thoughts will pop up no doubt but you gotta shift your focus back to yourself. You got this!!!
Same vibes ( my bf dumped me after 4 months and got with someone new in like a month. Hoping the pain fades cuz idk what I’ll do if it doesn’t.
I feel you and it does get better but you gotta cut him out of your life. Delete the pics unfollow him block his number—just cleanse your space. Keep yourself busy cuz fr ignorance is bliss. I get how this can mess with your self-esteem so spend time with people who actually make you feel loved. Not gonna lie it’s not easy. Love hits different and the fact you’re still waiting for him while he’s moved on shows you cared way more than he did.
Give it time.
And if you ever need to vent my DMs are always open 🙂🫶🏼