I’m 29M and went through a breakup earlier last month that nearly wrecked me. Back in october I was texting my then borderline gf everything seemed chill. She told me she loved me after work so I asked how she was and called to vibe about her day. Out of nowhere she flipped out and started going off on me. 20 mins later I got a long text listing all the ways I messed up in the relationship. Then boom blocked on everything ghosted after years. Just like that.
The grief and emotional rollercoaster messed me up bad. I even tried ending it. Not gonna lie I’ve always struggled with depression and anxiety but this broke me. I worked so hard to be better for her to make her happy and it was like none of it mattered. she erased me like I was trash.
months later I’m still struggling. I don’t even know why. I don’t think it’s cause I miss her but I feel stuck when it comes to dating again. 29 feels old like it’s too late to find real happiness with someone new. Plus I’m introverted and don’t have a lot of friends so it’s extra hard.
If anyone’s got advice I’d appreciate it. Also, if anyone needs a friend, my DMs are open.
Last updated on:2024-12-18T15:51:20+05:30
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I don't know her but sounds like you dodged a bullet respectfully. Like, if someone just dips with no explanation she was probs gonna be dramatic anyway.
Damn this one's tough. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Been there and it took me over a year to accept that I fell for someone who was kinda... a ghost. they weren’t whole and it wasn’t fair how they treated me. you two weren’t a match and that’s not on you. Stay strong. and for real walking and getting in shape actually helps it’s cliché but it works.
yeah I’ve been hitting the gym since then but it’s still tough ngl.
Borderline so you know they just cut people off?
I get it now but it still feels kinda unreal.
I was in an LDR too and we had a fight now he's not replying to me.
This is seriously messed up. When did he stop replying? Did you actually meet him in person tho?
@SharkSlayer Almost been 2 months now yeah we hung out and traveled together.
@Clementine54 Hope ur feeling better soon
Bro stop stressing about getting a girlfriend. Focus on leveling up yourself heal your mind get your finances right get fit get in shape. Get your life together get your head straight. Why would a girl want you if you're a mess? Build a life that'll have women coming after you not the other way around. Don’t make relationships your main focus. Trust me, tons of people in relationships wish they were single. Use this time to build yourself back up. Leave her in the past move on feel your emotions cry laugh but don’t stay stuck. Hit the gym go to church meet new people buy new clothes grind and make that money.
It’s not too late. I’m 28 a Lowkey terrified and don’t even know if it’s really happening yet but we’re on a separation. He barely talks to me and the heartbreak is next level.But we’re still so young. You’ll be okay it’s not over. And I’m here if you ever wanna talk.
What keeps you going and holding your head up?
@SharkSlayer It hasn’t happened yet he’s still figuring it out. It’s been just over a month now. I cry pretty much all day and night on most days.
I’m not good but I’ve been through a bigger heartbreak before we were together for years and I made it through.
So I know we’ll make it through this too
@Rmsiiii098 That sounds super stressful. Just remember you’ve got a choice too
It’s tough I get it but it’s just a phase. A year from now feels far but it’s not forever. There’s so much waiting for you you just need patience and the right vibe. Set small goals and check them off one by one. I saw every day that passed as a little win. When I was dating, it made me feel like a teen again. You got this
focus on leveling up and getting hyped for dating again. No doubt the best is still ahead and your happiness is in your hands. 29 is young and there are plenty of single women out there. When you’re ready go find someone who vibes with your interests and values real connection. Until then enjoy the ride with whoever you date. It’s all part of the journey to finding your person.