I’m so dumb. I really convinced myself he liked me when he’d just broken up with his girl and was clearly just using me to cope. Now he’s back with his ex. I just wanted someone to actually like me for once and I let it happen even tho I kinda knew. The signs were there I just ignored them. So stupid like ridiculously stupid.
Last updated on:2024-12-26T13:43:48+05:30
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I just wanna start by saying you're not stupid at all. A lot of us have been in situations where we let hope and wanting that connection cloud the warning signs. It's totally human and your feelings are valid.
Being a rebound sucks so much cause it’s not just the pain of rejection but also feeling used. But seriously this is about his emotional immaturity and not being able to handle his breakup properly not about your worth. He chose to use someone else’s feelings to cover his own pain and that's on him not you.
You mentioned wanting someone to like you just this once and I feel that on a deep level. Wanting to be loved and valued is such a real need. But sometimes that need makes us settle for less than we deserve. You deserve someone who picks you first not as a temporary fix.
Take this as a lesson but be kind to yourself. The signs might’ve been there but you were coming from a place of real feelings and hope. That’s not being stupid that's just being human. Use this hurt to set stronger boundaries and remember your worth. The right person will see that from the jump and won’t treat you like a way to get over someone else.
Take the time you need to heal and always remember your worth isn’t tied to his actions or anyone else who couldn’t see it.
That’s rough
I was a rebound too, I get how it feels, you’re always comparing yourself to her... I didn’t even know they were talking while we were together and she didn’t even know I was a thing. He wants me to keep it on the low that we had something... he was my first real love the only guy I gave my whole heart to but to him I was just nobody.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Relationships take two ppl and he probably showed signs he liked you maybe even used your kindness to fill his own void. That was his way of coping. Next time just have stronger boundaries. But seriously don’t beat yourself up rebounds can work out sometimes. You had hope and he kinda took advantage of that. Forgive him but more importantly forgive yourself and move on. You’ll find someone else.
It happens. Pick yourself up shake it off say fuck him and either rebound with someone else or hit up therapy if you're feeling it
I was a rebound too. It hurts so much. You’re not alone tho