So I’m a 31M gay. It all started when I randomly added this dude on Facebook I didn’t even know. We started chatting and turns out he’s a 35M lawyer. We talked a lot swapped pics and he seemed super into it. Eventually I caught feelings so I told him then blocked him right after. Two days later I unblocked him and he was literally waiting for it and started typing right away. He said he was hurt and disappointed I blocked him and then dropped this whole thing about how love can be platonic like between friends and family and suggested I see a psychologist for being gay.
I couldn’t help myself after that and started sending him flirty messages and love songs. He didn’t shut me down he’d even react with hearts sometimes. We kept talking and one time I asked him to say I love you and he actually did. But I got scared of getting hurt so I blocked him again after telling him how I felt. He messaged me n Facebook saying he was disappointed and couldn’t accept gay feelings at all like he rejected it for religious and scientific reasons and called me moody.
After unblocking him again we went back to chatting and I kept flirting. He’d sometimes react warmly other times not. I even got jealous when he was talking to some woman (apparently for work) and I told him I was upset. He just sent funny emojis and said he liked teasing me. One time I posted a birthday story on WhatsApp and he saw it but got jealous and moody though he didn’t admit it.
Then life got busy and I didn’t talk to him for 10 days. When I finally texted he was so mad and said I made him feel unimportant and that he doesn’t trust me anymore. After that he got super cold so I decided to fight with him and blocked him again. He called me out for being disrespectful and said he couldn’t trust me. I told him I didn’t want him in my life and he got upset saying he regrets ever meeting me.
He found a way to text me on Botim after all that and sent a voice message saying he’s done with me because I blocked him too much. I told him I didn’t want him and he said he regrets knowing me. We haven’t talked since. He didn’t block me and I unblocked him but it’s radio silence.
Does he secretly love me and just can’t admit it?
Last updated on:2025-01-07T16:49:03+05:30
Comments (6)
He's not worth your time and energy. Focus on yourself and your own happiness.
This is a toxic cycle. You need to break free from this pattern.
He's a narcissist. He seems to enjoy the attention and control.
He's not worth the stress. This relationship is clearly causing you pain.
He's playing games. He's clearly enjoying the drama and your attention.
that sounds toxic. This whole situation seems super messy.