So my ex and I broke up almost 2 months ago. It ended coz she kept needing attention from other dudes giving her number out at work she’s a bartender. Found out she hooked up with one of them the same day we broke up and then less than a month later she’s in a new relationship. I legit did everything for her during our time together probably too much. She’d always say all the right things how much she loved me wanted to be with me forever talking about our future and all that. And yet, she still did me dirty. How do you say all that to someone you claim to love and then hurt them like that?
Now I’m just anxious even thinking about dating again. Like why put so much effort into someone if they’re just gonna lie and hurt you? I know not everyone’s like that, but it feels like cheating and toxic behavior are way too common now. I don’t wanna be alone forever, but I also don’t wanna go through this kinda pain again. Anyone else feeling this or have advice on how to stop overthinking it?
Last updated on:2025-01-08T14:09:43+05:30
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check out The Betrayal Bond it's not gonna fix all your fears and anxieties but it sounds like you're more stuck on the betrayal than the person. i went through something similar not sure if there was any sex tho. but it gave me a solid foundation to work with and that's been super helpful. good luck tho sorry this happened to you
How long y’all been a thing?
7 months
I know it sounds kinda dumb saying this but it wasn’t even that long and still she made me feel so different from anyone else I’ve ever been with. She always knew exactly what to say to keep me hooked, and wow did I fall hard.
@SnowMan I'm really sorry that happened to you that's rough. She was definitely not the one. Dating can be messy tho sometimes it takes a few false starts before you find the right person. You might get dumped or you might be the one to end it no guarantees. Just protect your heart until you're 100% sure don't fall too fast.
@LoopyLad This is solid advice on protecting your feelings. I ended things but it kinda feels like I’m the only one hurting since she moved on so fast. I don’t get how you can just flip a switch like that but maybe that’s a good thing.
@SnowMan I kinda feel like she wasn't as into the relationship as you were... like that's the only way she'd be able to do that. Maybe she wants something different too... some people just bounce from person to person.
Don’t rush moving on just to say you did. Make sure you’re actually ready. Getting betrayed like that hits hard and yeah, it can mess with your trust. But eventually you’ll find someone who won’t treat you like that. Two months isn’t that long so maybe you just need more time to process everything. It’ll get better with time for real.
Oh fr I know I'm not ready for anything new. Isn't it like hurt people hurt people? I can’t even imagine getting involved with someone rn or anytime soon. It’d just be a mess and I don’t wanna hurt someone else just cause I’m hurt. It’s so cliche but you’re right time really does heal this stuff.
@SnowMan My ex hurt me too not the same way yours did but it took me over months to move on. Not saying it'll take you that long him and I were together for months but just saying it takes time. Don’t stress if it feels like you’re not moving fast. It’ll happen when it’s meant to.