To sum it up quick I’ve been with some great girls made mistakes in my 20s learned my lessons.
Last year I fell in love for the first time. That feeling still messes with me daily. Turns out I was lied to. I was super down until I met her but with her I actually felt like I made someone’s world brighter.
Then after like 4 months I started feeling her drift away. And boom she lies about seeing someone? Who even knows anymore her friends said she does this kinda thing every few months.
I’m 30 now so yeah, I’m exhausted. Life’s got me in a chokehold and I’m just tryna breathe again. (Sorry if that’s too much info.) But real talk I still think about her every single day. That’s why I’m even writing this.
I’ve been in the dating game for 11 years so here’s my question do people just settle? Like are those crazy romantic moments always just a flash like a shooting star?
Let me know what you think.
Last updated on:2025-01-15T15:02:20+05:30
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People settle because they think it's all they deserve like that's all that's out there for them. But the truth is all your wildest dreams are totally possible.
The people who hurt you? You would've been settling for them if they didn’t dip first. That breakup? It had to happen. Those relationships would’ve kept you from living a more real free and loving life. So be grateful for what’s coming your future self and the person who’ll be the right fit for you. I know it’s hard to see that now when it still stings but this is where spirituality kicks in. Nothing happens by accident and it’s not meant to punish you. There's a lot of freedom in just going with the flow of life.
This is so well written Kinda inspiring too. Let’s see what the future holds hope you’re right.
@Downlover Honestly as someone who took years to get over a breakup I promise there’s no deadline where you have to just accept defeat or give up. Your time is yours and you can have the biggest changes in a single day not even just over years. Don’t let society’s timelines or milestones mess with your sense of selfworth. Some people meet their true soulmate at 50 and wish they could tell their younger self to stop stressing, waiting or beating themselves up. Instead live like you know the best is coming so might as well enjoy the ride and build until it does.
I feel like for a lot of people the answer is yes and that’s sad but you’re still young you’ve got time. And I’m saying this as someone who’s not so young anymore
Thanks for the advice really appreciate it I hope it works out it’s hard to picture but I know anything can happen.
Took me 10 years to find someone I saw as more than just a partner someone I wanted to give everything to no questions.
Now I’m realizing not everyone deserves love I was kinda naive. But I really want to work on being someone she could love. I’ve moved on from so much but she’s still inside me, and I just wanna be there for her fulfill all her needs.
I’m mad at her but honestly there’s something louder than that. We’re not in touch right now and I know I sound a little obsessed.
Thanks for reading this just need to feel seen or validated by someone who gets it.