I just found out that the person I was dating confessed his love to another girl yesterday. How did I find out? He told me himself, without any regard for my feelings, saying he was sad and disappointed. Just last week, I had confessed my feelings to him, right after we came back from a romantic vacation together.
I can't get over the disappointment of realizing I was just a pawn, that I imagined all the love I thought he had for me.
The worst part is that I feel guilty for not being able to be there for him. It's strange to love someone so much that you're sad not to be loved back, disappointed for having misread every touch, every kiss, every romantic gesture, and at the same time hurt by his disappointment and guilty for not being able to support him.
I haven't been able to eat for days, my legs are shaking, and I keep getting flashes of the past year and a half since we met, and especially the last four months during which we were consistently seeing each other.
It hurts how little he seems to care about my feelings. If the other girl had said yes, what would he have done? Would he have left me just like that, without remorse? Only with a guilty conscience?
I don’t know what to do now, and I don’t know how to stop talking to him. Any suggestion on how to get over it?
Last updated on:2025-07-20T11:33:02+05:30
Comments (7)
this guy sounds like he’s playing games. You’re worth more than someone who doesn’t value your feelings
I know it hurts but you gotta let him go. He doesn’t deserve your love or your guilt.
this guy is giving red flags. You’re better off without him.
this is so messed up. You’re not a pawn you’re a queen. Block him and focus on yourself you got this
you deserve so much better than this. Don’t let his lack of respect make you question your worth. Cut him off fr.
I just want to say you didn’t imagine it all. The love you gave was real, and so were your feelings. Sometimes people can’t return that love in the way we hope, and it’s not your fault. It doesn't mean you were 'just a pawn' it means you were brave enough to care deeply.
You’re not guilty for not being able to carry someone else’s pain. You’re human. We all want to help those we love, but that doesn’t mean we’re responsible for saving them.
You’re allowed to feel hurt, disappointed, and even confused. But please remember: someone else’s lack of care doesn’t define your worth. The fact that you still want to understand and support even after being hurt shows how strong and kind you are.
One day, someone will hold your heart the same way you hold others. And until then, take it one breath at a time. You deserve peace too
Thank you for your beautiful response — I will read it every time my head feels too heavy and disappointment weighs on my chest like a boulder, to remind myself that it's okay. I will try to accept what happened. I am aware of the love and care I gave, of having been real and sincere, but sometimes that's not enough.
It leaves a bitter taste not to receive the same love from the person we learned to care about. In every moment of confusion, I searched for a comforting word from him that never came. Now I know the reason is that he didn’t have any.
We overcome our limits for the people we love; I just wish he had cared enough about me to choose to overcome his. He showed he was capable of it — just not with me — and that makes the bitterness even heavier.
It will pass, day by day, breath by breath. In the meantime, thank you for your realness and kindness ❤️🩹