New here, 1 day after break up

it just happened. that first crash is brutal. nothing helps much right now.

i remember that. crying til my chest hurt, like my whole body didn’t know what to do. it does calm down eventually.

i couldn’t eat for 3 days. felt like my body just shut down. he slept fine tho. that pissed me off the most.

It is so tough and it consumes your every minute, but you have to feel it and let it ache when it aches. acknowledge it, and then try to distract....breathing exercises, reading, gym, walks, rubbish films, gardening, messaging AI....anything to occupy that space. With time you start to regain control and there will be a sense of self start to emerge and a sense of pride. Remember you are amazing and you deserve to be loved by someone who deserves you and all you bring to the world. Be strong and hang in there.

The one thing I have learned during this period is to feel all the emotions as they come. Sit through it. Cry when you feel like, rot in bed if need be. Eventually things get better. Take each day as it comes.

Nights are definitely the worst, the nightmares and the waking up. I even feel phisically sick

I feel your pain. I'm in 3rd week of wife ending marriage totally out of the blue. it rips you apart. them 1st few days are intense with emotions. at week 3 it's still bad but definitely not as intense. have good and bad days. you'll ride the wave, the crests and the falls, but it does get slightly calmer. then hopefully at some point it turns into a millpond.
I won't be 1 of them who says just forget and move on, ya just want to smack them people in the face. but try distract them the mind. it's not easy, but starting with this app, you've already done well. I've downloaded mindfulness apps, joined gym, read a lot about narcissists. booked appointments I've been putting of for long time. anything to distract. won't lie, laying in bed at night is the worst. also waking up in morn and the 1st thing that pops into your head is them