I just got blackout drunk and it’s not an excuse but I don’t whether to tell him
Last updated on:2025-10-08T07:59:42+05:30
I did stuff with his mate should I tell him we’ve been broken up for 3 months I feel really bad :/
I just got blackout drunk and it’s not an excuse but I don’t whether to tell him
Last updated on:2025-10-08T07:59:42+05:30
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you think you wanna tell him because you still care what he thinks… or because you want closure for yourself?
if you’re only wanting to tell him to ease your guilt, maybe sit with it first. sometimes confessing helps you but hurts them for no reason. give it a day or two before deciding.
i hooked up with someone my ex knew like a month after we ended things. the guilt ate me up for weeks even though we weren’t together anymore. it’s such a weird ache.
are you two still in contact and somewhat on good terms?
we talk sometimes we ended the relationship on mutual terms he said he doesn’t want to be with anyone else but needs to be on his own for a bit
@SparkSnap376 hmm well, I can't say how he would react if you tell him. but if you're in good terms, then I'd imagine it would hurt him a little bit. but it also wouldn't be good to keep it from him and live in constant fear that he'd find out. I think you should tell him but say it gently and make sure to say and show him that you regret what happened and it was a mistake. he may forgive you but there's a chance he also may not. there's really no way of knowing until it happens. And what about the friend, have you spoken to them since it happened? does he regret it as well?
@SparkSnap376 but also, if you don't think that you two would ever get back together, then you don't have to tell him. I said the other stuff while imagining that you two would eventually get back together. but if that isn't in the cards, then I'd say to just let it go. you don't have to tell him. you feel awful about it and that's okay, but you don't owe anything to him. you had been broken up for 3 months, you don't have to keep trying to keep him happy. it's not responsibility. And he shouldn't hold any more authority in your life anymore.