i am +1 month in without speaking to my ex, ive blocked him and everything, but rn i am omw to stop any form of contact as superficial as it may seem, like checking his spotify, using mutual friends as a way of knowing about him or asking the tarot about his feelings (sometimes i can't help but ask and wether it's real or not, it mantains the neuronal networks associated to him alive).
so i wanna ask, what do you say to yourself before so you won't do it? not talking to him is now mostly easy, giving up completely on him not so much.
Last updated on:2025-10-22T04:25:03+05:30
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what’s the one thing you catch yourself doing most? like, checking spotify, tarot, or asking friends? noticing that might help you prepare before the urge hits
i found it helps to replace the urge with something small but distracting—like a walk, music, or writing a quick note about how i feel. it doesn’t fix it but it slows the spiral
i went full no-contact too, blocked everything, even stopped lurking on his socials. telling myself “he’s gone, not coming back” helped me a bit each day
So Im in no contact
and in the night I miss him sm
I was gonna contact him at 03 Am
I wanted to read our old messages to make me feel better and what I saw??
Him saying those shitty words to meee
and I knew I miss the memories not the person he become
(🔑remember the things that made u leave bad things he did to you)
i remind myself, he’s with someone else. if not now, future is. so either get back or not, bcz not get back so better forget now than later
remember the bad things, because when we are out of it we only remember the good ones. but there were bad ones too, the ones that haunts you. remember and hold onto them
I feel you, so I wrote a list of reasons why I don't want this person in my life and just read it