its Day 17 and no im not ok, because he is ok our breakup no longer bothers him, hes not upset im no longer there, hes not upset that he hurt me, hes not upset by any of it and to top it off he no longer feels anything for me. we went from talking everyday, to this and hes ok with it and he went from loving me to... nothing. yeah im not doing ok.
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have you been able to talk to anyone about this, like a friend who actually gets it? sometimes saying it out loud helps a tiny bit.
i kept reminding myself that people numb out in different ways. his “being ok” doesn’t mean you don’t matter. it just means you’re the one actually feeling the loss. be gentle with yourself right now.
being on day 20-something after my breakup and it destroyed me how he just… moved on like nothing. it felt like i was grieving alone. i’m really sorry you’re in that space
I feel you. How long were ye together? my 3.5 year boyfriend broke up with me nearly 4 weeks ago and his friends who are also my friends said he didn't give a f*ck about our breakup that he was completely fine and here i am grieving. So I feel you. sometimes they say it takes boys longer to grieve and realise what they have lost. where as girls feel it quicker.
we broke up 4 months ago but on and off contact wise but its been 17 days since 0 contact and before we started it he said he wasnt bothered by any of it and he feels nothing for me romantically anymore. honestly how... how little did I mean?
Everything changed for me starting in July. I had been with someone every single day for years, and right when she started her new job and I still didn’t have a placement, she ended things on August 1. For almost 20 days I kept apologizing and trying to understand what went wrong. She said it was because of “family and health issues,” and that she didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore.
It hit even harder because I was the one who helped her get that job in the first place. Meanwhile, I was struggling emotionally and financially, trying to get my own career started. What made it worse was hearing things like “Be a man, you can’t even get yourself a job,” while she laughed with people she had known for barely ten days.
Later I found out those “health issues” were lies. She went on a trip with her new group, and when I confronted her, her whole tone flipped from emotional to angry. Some things she said that day still stick with me.
During that time, I was desperately applying everywhere—messaging and emailing hundreds of people. My health fell apart too. Anxiety, breathing issues, feeling completely alone. But in those two months, somehow, I managed to get a good job—actually paying twice what she earns.
It’s been a month since I moved to a new city for work. Career-wise things are finally looking up. But personally? I’m still alone. No friends here yet. Most days I just go to the park and talk or play with random people because I don’t have anyone else around.
I don’t know what destiny has planned, but I’m trying to keep going. And sometimes, hearing honest words from someone or seeing someone speak real truth is what gives me strength to keep moving
@PloopMo548 4 years it was