i saw my ex today and walked her home,we talked and i got alot of closure,she said that after she finishes college we will get back together,her family and mental health are bad and i understand,now all i have to do is wait for about a year and a half its not alot right?ill miss her alot and ill play back every moment but i guess its part of the process,i cant wait for the day we get back,but theres also the fear that we wont and thats haunting me
Last updated on:2026-01-26T04:34:18+05:30
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The biggest advice I can give you even if you are super sure shes coming back is to stop waiting. Like you said, your head spirals into negative thoughts from just waiting. So, stop. Focuse on yourself just like shes doing and I am sure you wont even notice how much time has passed when she comes back.
when you think about waiting that year and a half, does it feel like something you’re choosing calmly, or something you’re clinging to because letting go feels unbearable right now
this makes sense emotionally. closure can feel calming and terrifying at the same time.
Good for you she gave you that closure
i broke no contact once and felt this rush of relief and hope too. the “we’ll get back together later” promise kept me hanging for months. closure and attachment can look REALLY similar
I don't really know your situation, but maybe you could try focusing on yourself before you're completely focused on waiting for her.