I was in NC with my ex for 5 days, then she reached out we spoke. I went again to NC for 3 days. and she reached out . we talk briefly. I volunteer to pick some chairs for a workshop she will be giving. today we went to pick up the chairs. she was very stressed. I offered to bring sushi or pizza after we workshop. she said she will let me know. Then I ask if she had plans for the evening, but she just said she was tired. When I was about to leave I offer again to bring some food as they will be tired. she mentioned she will let me know, as all of her family will be there. I felt used I was feeling better when I was in NC. what advice would you give me?
Last updated on:2026-01-27T23:10:05+05:30
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when you offer these things, do you feel like it’s out of care or because you hope it’ll get you closer again?
i’ve found the only thing that helps is sticking to the boundaries you set. if NC was giving you space, don’t let small interactions pull you back in, even if it feels harmless
i went NC with my ex too and felt “okay,” then he reach out with requests or plans. it’s draining because even small favors feel like a test of your patience