After a month of talks about separation, I finally am coming to terms with it. She stated she wanted to separate but still do family things. Keep a family presence for the kids and everyone else but live separate lives outside of that. As of yesterday, she always noted that she wanted an open relationship. I can live with separation in hope of reconnecting but I can’t deal with the option of an open relationship. She offered it to me first but it seems like it was just a ploy to see if I’d take the bait so that she can explore that option as well. Now I’m left with little hope and wanting to make a prayer each day that I’m not too late.
Last updated on:2026-02-03T08:33:03+05:30
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when she talks about staying “family together” for the kids, do you feel like she actually wants a life with you too, or mostly just keeping things comfortable while exploring?
like you already know your limit. even if hope feels tempting, your boundaries matter more than keeping a maybe alive. praying for clarity is fine, but don’t ignore what you can’t handle.
my ex wanted “space” but kept dangling this whole open relationship thing like it was a test. it HURT so bad, feeling like i wasn’t enough and that hope was slipping away.
When a woman decides to leave home or separate, she has usually already gone through her internal grieving process within the relationship. She might propose an open relationship to minimize collateral damage, especially to the children, by maintaining a family facade.However, things get complicated when there are no clear boundaries: one of the two ends up seeking that trust, fidelity, and monogamy that the separation destroyed.That's where the real conflict lies, beyond appearances.
she is wasting your time mate .you deserve better ,she wants to have fun and explore .just cut ties with her and only contact for family