hi,
my ex gf and I broke up a few months ago. I think she is dating someone (im not sure). I usually go into NC, but she always keeps reaching out and asking for favors, to which I help her.
but annoys me this, she only reaches out when she needs something
Last updated on:2026-02-02T16:07:03+05:30
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when she reaches out for favors, do you feel relief because you’re still connected, or resentment because it reminds you you’re only needed, not chosen?
my ex did the exact same thing, disappeared emotionally but popped back up the second she needed help. it messed with my head because it felt like i still mattered, but only in a very specific, convenient way. that part hurt more than the breakup sometimes.
don’t give her that attention. she is going to think you’re still interested and take advantage. stay strong.
she wants to see if your still hanging around and reachable. and for every time you pick up she will think she has the power to come back whenever she wants because you still choose to answer
You don't owe her anything. She's an adult she can manage her own things. Put yourself first for once.