I have been with my girlfriend for six months. Recently she found out she’s infertile and now wants to break up saying I deserve someone who can give me a family.
Thetruth is I was never even sure I wanted kids until I met her. My answer to do you want children? was always I don’t know. But after our first date I knew she was the one the person I wanted to build a life with. I’ve never felt that way before. I’ve never even talked about having kids with any of my past girlfriends. I don’t just want a family I want a family with her. And if that means it’s just the two of us then that’s enough for me.
I’ve told her all of this but she isn’t receptive. She feels like she’s less of a woman now and insists I deserve better.
I’m heartbroken and don’t know what to do. Any advice would mean a lot.
Last updated on:2026-02-04T05:36:52+05:30
Comments (4)
that up to you
this one hurts
but when someone tells you they feel unworthy, they’re not asking you to argue
they’re showing you they’re not ready to be loved, even if you mean it
She's depressed and likely devastated by the news of her infertility. She's wounded and pushing you away. Don't let her do that. Be there for her, take care of her. Convince her to see a therapist or get on antidepressants if she needs them. Don't let her blow up her own life.
If you've already told her all this, then what you need to do now is just be there with her. Show her you mean it and how much you value her. Show up with flowers, maybe even a nice card that writes out all the things you're feeling.