Weekends are the hardest because that's when I used to go to his place. Last Saturday I relapsed and texted him that i am obviously feeding his ego but my heart misses him and ill be fine. Tell me why I did that aag!!! his reply was he doesn't have his ego and he still has a watch that he bought me if I still want it.
I dont know man, should I take it? I guess there is no manual into this thing but I have to remain strong, that means doesn't deserve me
Last updated on:2026-02-25T22:35:04+05:30
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if you go get the watch, are you hoping for closure? or are you hoping he’ll look at you a certain way again
weekends are SUCH a trigger. i used to spiral every saturday too because that was “our” day. i’ve sent the “i know i’m feeding your ego but i miss you” text before. the second i hit send i felt that aag in my chest and their dry reply? it stings so bad. you’re not weak. you’re just missing someone you loved.
take it and re-sell it, as a ritual to cut off this bond? that's what 'd do
That's the worst! when they reply normally bc you know they miss you also. and him trying to see you again letting you know about the watch. ugh 😩
it is so hard to know what to do
hah yeah, best way to really start believing in no contact is breaking no contact. even if they respond normal and friendly, it messes you up, cause your detoxing system cant handle it yet. ah well.
I hear you and I understand you. I want you to know that you aren't alone and your feelings are valid. I’ve relapsed a couple of times myself. For me, it was late afternoons when we used to talk every day That I found tripping.
I found it really difficult to maintain my boundaries until I started an online breakup bootcamp. One of the most powerful things I learned is that the intense craving to reach out usually passes within 20 minutes. Now, I keep a list of things to do during those 20 minutes to distract myself. Knowing the intensity has an expiration date makes it so much easier to ride out the wave. I also repeat affirmations to myself when I start to romanticize the past or forget why the relationship didn't work. I say to myself. I know this is hard but I know I can get through this. repeating this to myself over and over again throughout the day has been helpful.
Regarding the watch: ask yourself if wearing it will be a constant trigger. I found it helpful to put all reminders in storage and archive photos or delete messages so they don't 'pop up.' My course taught me that your 'healing clock' resets every time you feed the hunger by looking at old photos or messages.
I’ve only been doing this for 6 days, and it’s already helping my grief. Please forgive yourself. You are building new neural pathways that don't include him, and that takes time. What you had was real, and it’s okay to miss him, but you can choose tools that make getting over him a little easier. You are strong and you will get through this❤️
You're still going through a really tough time. You'll see that with time it will pass and you'll have a clearer understanding of your situation.