Am i foolish for texting my ex? the struggle is real and feeling stupid

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I was doing so good today, didn't talk to him , was so peaceful, then he texted me that he loves seeing my texts! I should ve ignored him, I asked him texting as friends? FWB? GF? then we started fighting again! after that I texted him staying mad at each other is painful physically and mentally, we should sit and talk, he didn't answer, went to his place, he didn't open the door! I feel like stupid for being an adult with a very immature man for the million times! he is an avoidant, been together for 18 months!

Last updated on:2026-03-03T20:45:05+05:30

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sadeye
sadeye 12 mins ago

ugh this hurt to read. when he didn’t open the door, what did that feel like in your body? was it more anger or more heartbreak?

love2U
love2U 6 hrs ago

i get why you asked what you are to him, that uncertainty eats at you.

CozyKind415
CozyKind415 10 hrs ago

Just block his number and all socials. I know its semms harsh. But you need to protect yourself. I cannot do it because my ex is the mkther of my children. But I wish I could. If you have the chace. Do it. And focus on what you want for yourself.

HexiZap636
HexiZap636 4 hrs ago

I did blocked everything. I need my peace back.

lonlymatter
lonlymatter 11 hrs ago

uff one calm day, then one “i love your texts” and i’m right back at his door feeling small. i dated an avoidant for almost two years too, and i kept thinking this time he’ll show up different. it messes with your head so bad.

HexiZap636
HexiZap636 4 hrs ago

Exactly, why do we keep fooling ourselves! they never showed up, we always did! to me its very weird! He is my first avoidant and I ll make sure he is my last!

ForMyself26
ForMyself26 11 hrs ago

courage 🤍

HexiZap636
HexiZap636 12 hrs ago

Thank you guys for the support, I really appreciate it

HexiZap636
HexiZap636 12 hrs ago

I know he misses me but he won't do the work or say what he feels honestly, his ego is killing us and I am tired of always trying to keep us together and fix things, while I am the 10 years younger, I always put my ego aside and choose us. hopefully I won't do it anymore.

BlazeWave122
BlazeWave122 12 hrs ago

my ex gf posted a thirst trap it's crazy how much I valued her body then she does ths so I blocked her

HushMoo449
HushMoo449 12 hrs ago

block him for good

HexiZap636
HexiZap636 12 hrs ago

I did

TumTum325
TumTum325 13 hrs ago

that's really sad tbh
was he baiting you or something?