My ex called my dad today about dropping my stuff off in the spring. he asked my dad. when would be a good time to drop off my stuff? my mom had told me to kiss my stuff goodbye because she felt my ex would never drive 12 hours each way just to drop off my stuff. I knew he would keep his promise. I broke down and cried when my dad told me that my ex called. we haven't talked in 27 days. he doesn't have my phone number or email anymore. I have a feeling and I could be wrong because I'm only guessing but I have a feeling that he was contacting my dad so far in advance because the silence was bothering him and he was hoping that I would call him back myself to arrange a drop off. The last message I got from him was right before I changed my email and he wanted to talk about things and as much as I wanted to talk about things and work things out I knew it would go nowhere. he wasn't interested taking accountability and working on the problems and finding solutions. he was also verbally abusive and slowly becoming physically abusive. I love him but it was starting to harm my mental health to stay. so today was a difficult day. I had to decide whether to break no contact and contact him myself or to have my dad contact contact him for me and tell him that I don't want my stuff. I decided that it was time to do what was best for me and to protect my healing journey. I'm going to have my dad text him tomorrow that I don't want my stuff. this decision doesn't come lightly because I know this will be my last chance to ever see him again and this is closing the door forever. I love him and I treasure the special times that we had and he will always have a special place in my heart even though. he is now my happily even after. it's time for me to close the chapter on him and move on.
Last updated on:2026-03-10T22:50:05+05:30
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when you picture seeing him again to get your stuff, does it feel like closure… or does it feel like it would pull you right back into the same pain?
i think you did the right thing protecting your healing.
i left someone i still loved too because the way he spoke to me started getting mean and a little scary, and choosing my peace felt like ripping my own heart out. letting your dad handle it so you don’t have to reopen that door… i get why that hurts so much.