Why does he keep contacting me if he wants me to move on?

Everytime we end up talking again, and he eventually leaves, I get heartbroken all over again, and everytime again he tells me I need to move on and stop thinking about him and stuff, but HE is the one that contacts me, and in the past HE was the one to say "I miss you" or "I love you" and he always brings up our past and stuff, I think that might be his way of moving on, but why does he continue to contact me or anything if he wants me to MOVE ON 😭 it's frustrating

Last updated on:2026-03-13T17:46:02+05:30

Comments (8)

florance
florance 2 hrs ago

when he reaches out and says those things, does it feel like he actually wants you back, or does it feel more like he just misses the comfort of you being there?

OrganicKey
OrganicKey 7 hrs ago

that push and pull is brutal.đŸ„ș

tiktikLL
tiktikLL 9 hrs ago

i know this cycle way too well. my ex used to pop back into my life saying “i miss you” and bringing up old memories, then disappear again and tell me i needed to move on. every time i started healing he’d reopen the wound. it messes with your head so much.

ChillNights317

Did you ever get over him?

Amie
Amie 13 hrs ago

stop letting him disrespect you?? STOP contacting him. he's letting you on!!!

BlazeDash374
BlazeDash374 15 hrs ago

when he contacts you, he is doing “temperature checks” to see if he still matters in your world. every time you answer, it makes him feel in control and that you’ll never move forward. Stop responding when he reaches out. Nothing is changing except the date on the calendar. You deserve so much more and so much better. Don’t feed into his bs

ChillNights317
ChillNights317 12 hrs ago

it's so hard to think of him as that kind of guy, but I guess I shouldn't expect too much, I just didn't want him to fit in the box that every other shitty ex boyfriend fits in

ChillNights317
ChillNights317 11 hrs ago

and like, last time we talked, during one of our phone calls we ended up reading the letters we wrote to each other during our relationship when he was away ( it's only like 2 letters) and I read mine that he gave me, and idk it felt nostalgic or smt, but it didn't really.. hurt I guess, except I heard him kinda sniffiling and crying but it wasn't very loud or obvious so I didn't say anything about it but idk i think about it