I’m still trying to process how my relationship of 5 years ended, because the way it happened really messed with me.
For about two months he gave me the silent treatment. He became distans, cold, like I didn’t matter anymore. I kept trying to understand what was going on, reaching out for basically anything, but I got nothing. It felt like I just got cut off from his life, kind of discarded.
When I finally asked if we could meet and talk he just wrote “Sure, send me a list of the things you have at my place and I’ll drop them off this week.”
That was it. No conversation. No explanation. No acknowledgment of what we had or what I was feeling. Just logistics, like I was something to be dealt with.
My whole world shattered. One moment I was still trying to fix something I thougth we had, and the next it was just over, in the coldest and most detached way possible. It just feels so cruel. I'm left feeling hurt, confused and I have so many questions. It just doesn't make sense. Totally lost in how to even begin healing without a real closure
Last updated on:2026-04-07T14:49:17+05:30
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i’ve been cut off like that after years together too, just silence and then suddenly it’s over like you meant nothing. that kind of ending messed with my head for months, all those unanswered questions just looping.
Did you make it through after all? Did you guys ever talk about it?
Similar situation here, but he let me believe we were okay and then ended things so suddenly. No explanation, just told me to get my things and then he ran away to his family. I thought I needed closure as well, but to be honest a long talk only gave me more anxiety and some hope to rebuild everything. Wouldn't recommend, maybe sometimes it's better to just leave things as they are, especially if the other person seems to be an avoidant. And to be honest nothing makes sense even after this last talk we had. We've been together almost 5 years.
Thank u, and I'm sorry you had to go through that. I think you are on to something, talk probably wouldn't help at all. He is an avoidant, he would just put the blame on me and I would feel so much worse. My brain kind of knows that, but my heart just wont follow.