My ex-girlfriend's mom still follows me on Facebook and occasionally likes my posts. We don’t communicate anymore, but earlier this week, I saw a photo I took come up on her feed. It was a picture of my ex from last fall when we were at Party City, and she used it for a National Daughters Day post. I loved that photo and took a lot of great pictures of her back then. I didn’t react or like the post, but I initially felt irritated that she used a picture I took. Eventually, I let it go.
Then it resurfaced, and I noticed my ex liked it, along with her new boyfriend. We’re no longer friends on there, and it hit me—that’s a picture I took! It stirred up anger and this uncomfortable feeling in me. It just doesn’t feel right. I didn’t do anything wrong to her, but she treated me badly at the end of our relationship and quickly moved on.
It feels like her family doesn’t care about any of it. It’s really upsetting because I was always there for her. I kept my word, helped her practice driving so she could get her license, and was supportive in ways no one else was. I genuinely cared about her daughters, too, and did what I could to make them happy. And this is what I get in return? It’s unbearable to deal with every day, and I feel this pain in my chest. When does karma come around?
Last updated on:2024-10-23T15:13:56+05:30
Comments (13)
It's important to remember that people change.
It's possible she doesn't realize how much it hurts you.
Maybe she's trying to move on and that's her way of doing it.
It's tough to see the person you loved share your memories with someone else.
I know how it feels to be hurt by someone you cared about.
Maybe it's time to unfollow her and her family to create some distance.
Maybe she's trying to hold onto a positive memory.
Sometimes, people handle breakups differently. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't care.
It's understandable to feel hurt and confused. It's a complicated situation.
It's tough to see someone you cared about move on so quickly and seemingly without a second thought.
It's block time
Yeah I know. I should have already unfollowed them.
@Reuben I understand what you’re going through; I’ve been there too. Think of life like a series of Kobayashi Maru situations from Star Trek—sometimes, you can do everything right and still not win. It’s not a reflection of your worth, but a part of being human, something we all experience.
You gave your all to this person, and that’s something to be proud of. Unfortunately, it wasn’t returned, and it’s okay to feel hurt by that. You’re not just dealing with rejection from them, but also from the love you hoped for and even from their family. It feels crushing, and it’s normal to feel lost in this pain.
Allow yourself to feel these emotions and acknowledge where you are right now. Acceptance has been my path out of similar darkness. The past is unchangeable, and we can’t force others to care. They have moved on and accepted your absence; it’s time you do the same.
You have the strength to outgrow this. Embrace the future because you deserve to flourish and find better things ahead.